Monday, September 8
by Sue on Mon 08 Sep 2008 08:10 PM EDT
Update: I edited out a sentence that was offensive to someone whom I did not mean to offend.
I am running out of bakeries to patronize.
First, there was The Priory on the Northside. I loved their baked goods, but disliked their tactics opposing the drink tax which cost our community an ally.
Today, I did it again when I heard that a gay-owned business, Dozen, was sponsoring a cupcake gorging contest. Apparently, the owner thought causing people to vomit is a great way to increase sales.
You know me ... I had to say something. I thought it was a gross idea and potentially harmful to encourage gluttony and over-consumption. Seriously, there's nothing wrong with a cupcake or two. But the imagery of women shoving dozens of cupcakes into their mouths is revolting. I hate those segments on the news, especially when followed by a report on the obesity epidemic.
Dozen's owner was incensed that I had an opinion contrary to his business interest. Apparently, you aren't allowed to say critical things about gay owned businesses. I've been through this with local bar owners and I can safely say that they have a much better sense of humor than bakers.
Here's a brief sample:
What did I say to provoke such a reaction? That I might not patronize his business. That's it. He said I was being overly dramatic. A cupcake orgy isn't dramatic? I mean the next step on the drama continuum would be to come up with a red velvet cupcake spiked with Midol and market it as PMS cure.
Then he said my arrogance was unpalatable -- get it? That is the best insult ever. Not even the Christian fundies have zinged me like that.
Now I'll admit to being a bit of an elitist and I can condescend with the best of them, but we all know that none of you ever does what I tell you to do. All I said to James was that rather than engaging me to resolve the difference of opinions, he pissed me off. Every Business 101 major learns that one angry customer's stories will undo the stories of 20 happy customers. I was a poli sci major and I know that for crying out loud.
Since I think being called unpalatable is the best bitchy thing I've heard in months, I'm not even going to comment on the hypocrisy of his last sentence. Oops.
Seriously, I know this is his living, but any reasonable gay person should resent the implication that we aren't allowed to say anything critical of gay owned businesses . That's patently absurd. I'm a big champion of supporting gay owned everything, but that doesn't put them above an honest critique. Dozen works the lesbian market like no other gay owned business in town. It is a good marketing strategy if you are in the market for cupcakes. And if you aren't, just hit delete. But when you wade into a predominantly lesbian venue, you should expect that the mouthy ones are often coming from a feminist perspective (not all of us mind you).
I know few feminists that would be supportive of an anything-eating contest. It hits a lot of buttons -- mass consumption, health issues, body image, eating disorders, etc. I'm just saying you have to take the bad with the good. If a cupcake eating contest annoys a few lesbians, you'll probably ride it out.
I did learn that cupcakes are not big in Europe. Dr. Bozena Zdaniuk, who famously compared the cupcake eating contest to a tequila drinking contest in terms of health impacts, had this to say:
Now this is where you can call me arrogant because of my conceit that everyone loves cupcakes. Right?
Ledcat tells me that I have to play nice or we aren't going to have anywhere to buy bread. I've also been arguing with my former veterinarian, the heroin addict across the street and a Libertarian. Oh, and PennDOT, of course. Now I need PennDOT's help to deal with the heroin addict so I might have screwed myself. I'll figure something out.
So, should you go to Dozen? Sure. The cupcakes are tasty (sorry, Bozena, but I hate croissants -- all that flaking makes me shudder). I often implore you to spend your precious disposable income at LGBT owned businesses. Yes, he did slam Pittsburgh as being judgmental, but he's a little bit right about that ... we are good for excluding people from over the bridge.
I'd advise you skip the cupcake eating contest, but only because it is kind of gross, not out of any sense of telling you what to do. Not that you listen to me.
My coworker took sympathy on me and made up a list of bakeries which I can patronize without compromising my indignant huff. I sure hope they are palatable!
Wednesday, August 27
by Sue on Wed 27 Aug 2008 09:06 AM EDT
I watched her speech last night and was proud that she was my candidate for President. She did a great job lifting up Barack as her candidate, calling for unity and reminding her supporters why they got into her campaign in the first place. I thought her speechwriters masterfully celebrated her accomplishments while folding them into the accomplishments of the Party. There was defnitely a baton pass here.
What's yet to be seen if the bashers of Hillary-supporter can channel some of their sexist tirade energy into electing our candidate (yes, I know it is Obama) instead of smacking down Americans who haven't been convinced. I'm so sick of putting all the blame at the feet of women who helped put 18,000 cracks into a glass ceiling. I'm sick of the "shut up and vote" syndrome. There are thousands of voters who aren't fond of Obama for reasons other than Hillary -- why won't you go convince them for awhile?
Tuesday, August 26
by Sue on Tue 26 Aug 2008 09:45 PM EDT
Some interesting tidbits for your political viewing pleasure. Michelle Obama addressed over 600 LGBT delegates at a luncheon cosponsored by Congressman Barney Frank and the Victory Fund. Is this a sign of things to come?
Pam's House Blend has this live coverage of the speech.
Which begs the question, according to Pam, of why so many Dems are "spineless" when it comes to repealing DADT and with regard to ENDA. Many of her commenters are questioning how impactful the "Elizabeth Edwards" syndrome should be for our community. Check out the conversation. Here are some other posts from Pam who is live in Denver.
The Advocate.com has a piece up about the Stonewall Convention which ran this past weekend. The 2006 Convention was here in Pittsburgh. I wasn't press credentialed for that one. :-) However, here's a little shout out to Pittsburgh embedded in the Advocate coverage. They mistakenly identify Gary Van Horn as the Head of the Pittsburgh Chapter, the Steel City Stonewall Dems. Gary is a former chair and current regular member. I think Gary is in Denver as a delegate for the DNC. Here's the link ... http://www.gaytvblog.com/2008/08/democratic-nati.html
I am rethinking some of my positions on this campaign. While I find distasteful and sexist the relentless tirades of bloggers and politicos against Hillary supporters potential damage to the election of The Annointed One, I don't want to squabble. Nor, however, do I wish to capitulate to the bigotry that says the prism of a woman is always skewed. Sometimes I feel like speaking about women's issues -- about my issues as a gay woman -- is the ultimate vagina monologue b/c the men simply don't want to engage in meaningful dialogue. I suspect on some gut level that we are being set up as scapegoats b/c we open our mouths and speak unpopular opinions.
That being said, what can I do to elect a Democrat and still acknowledge the historical greatness of Hillary's campaign? How do I work to ensure my future and still satisfy the inner voice that feels deeply betrayed by Obama's allegiance to Donnie McClurkin? I don't know.
BTW, I've been invited to participate in a webcast discussion on the campaign with other bloggers, including John McIntire and Maria of 2 Political Junkies. I have to work out a veterinary issue to see if I can make it. I'm kind of nervous.
Monday, August 25
by Sue on Mon 25 Aug 2008 07:33 PM EDT
Got this email ...good news for our LGBTQ friends to the North. And a reminder of the vital role gay clubs have played in building community.
Sounds like some good news and an excellent illustration about the importance of supporting gay owned small businesses ... hopefully, the queers in Butler County will make their pizzeria choices accordingly.
by Sue on Mon 25 Aug 2008 07:30 PM EDT
A big favorite of the Correspondents has always been Pam's House Blend, the nation's most interesting LGBTQ blog. Pam and her bloggers were prominent in a New York Times article about political blogging.
The article explores how the role of political bloggers has impacted the DNC and been impacted in return. It is a good read. One blogger's readers bought him a new laptop through donations. Ledcat thinks that would be a good idea for us. I'm not sure that our traffic quite lends itself to donations for more than a Goodwill special, but you never know. LOL.
In other news ... a local coffee shop is hosting a LGBT singles night.
Thursday August 28? Begins 7:00pm
Come hang out in a comfortable, friendly environment for the LGBT community.
I'm not single, but I think this is a great idea for everyone who complains there is nothing to do if you are single and don't go to bars.
Ohio has a Lesbian Festival. It is Columbus in mid-September.
My understanding is that this festival is open to ALL women, including our transsisters. Amen.
Sunday, August 24
by Sue on Sun 24 Aug 2008 11:17 AM EDT
Well, the LGBTQ community is officially a market sayeth the folks at Hallmark. From the Post-Gazette:
In response, the American Family Association is calling for a boycott of Hallmark. <yawn>. In response to the boycott, LGBTQ advocates are calling for queer people and our allies to send Hallmark cards to the AFA headquarters. <chuckle>
For the past 14 years, Pittsburgh's queer and queer-allied folk could buy these same themed cards at a wonderful little gift store called A Pleasant Present in Squirrel Hill. There are cards for every occasion. Owner Michael Ferraro told me that he carries lines from three vendors ... 10% Productions (18 years in business), Vash Designs and Smart Alex. He has no plans to carry Hallmark cards.
I'm not objecting to Hallmark expanding their card selection. I recognize that being an identifiable "market" is part of the march toward equality. I also recognize that market forces are vastly different than human rights campaigns so we'll be seeing no "congratulations on your transition" or "bisexuals have twice as much love to give" cards (tongue in cheek or not) from Hallmark or American Greetings anytime soon.
What bothers me is that every time a local lesbian or gay man plunks down a few bucks at Amy's Hallmark for a gay-themed card, that money goes into the coffers of Amy's Hallmark. This is not much progress. Amy's Hallmark isn't going to sell tickets to OUTrageous Bingo, the Lambda Ball or the River cruises -- free of charge. Amy's Hallmark isn't going to post flyers for the upcoming women's dance. Amy's Hallmark won't purchase an ad in the GLCC newsletter or the PrideGuide. Amy's Hallmark won't purchase advertising to support local radio programs that are super progressive on gay issues. Amy's Hallmark isn't going to create employment opportunities for queer youth or donate door prizes to leather themed events.
Local LGBT owned businesses like A Pleasant Present take our queer dollars and reinvest them back into our community. These businesses deserve our support in return. Amy's Hallmark isn't going to provide that service. They are going to take our money and that's that. It is the American way.
Should you buy a Hallmark card? Why not? But you should at least consider making a trip to Squirrel Hill say one a year to do some queer-shopping. You can order gift baskets over the phone. And there's tons and tons of products that are not gay-themed. If you can drop by to pick up your tickets for an event, you can browse the store and maybe pick up some greetings cards for upcoming occasions -- cards from companies that have been targeting our community for a long time. It is shameful that people would make the trip there and not even be aware that asking staff to stop their revenue generating work to sell you a bingo ticket deserves some payback. A card. A trinket for an upcoming birthday. A mug. Really, a thank you to the business for supporting your community.
The holidays are right around the corner. I was in A Pleasant Present yesterday purchasing a gift basket for work. I found a cute little trinket to buy for Ledcat as a gift -- a redneck road rage button. Michael is having a little "pop a ballon" sale so I ended up with 30% off my purchase. I put two quarters in the meter which I snagged right in front of the store. I stopped at Starbucks (a sponsor of a work project so that's a little thank you, too) and then I swung by the library. While I was in A Pleasant Present, I caught up with some local news and met a new friend who made a point to stop by my display at Hot House last night. I picked up the current issue of Pittsburgh's OUT which is impossible to find on the Northside. I browsed the postings. I made a few mental notes of gifts for upcoming birthdays. I bought an anniversary card. It was a very sucessful little trip.
A Pleasant Present is just one example of supporting a queer owned business. We can't expect our shops, bars, coffeehouses and ice cream parlors to continue going the extra-mile for our community if we don't invest a bit more than an occasional "free refills" Diet Coke in their livelihood. If Amy's Hallmark and her sister stores see some brisk sales of the gay relationship cards, that will encourage them to expand the line so by all means include them in your choices.
I would just challenge every person who relies on A Pleasant Present and other local LGBT owned businesses for access to your social activities --- spend a little money there to show that you appreciate their support.
Saturday, August 23
by Sue on Sat 23 Aug 2008 11:58 AM EDT
Just got word that friends and advertisers and listeners alike are gathering at the WPTT studio this coming Friday at 11:45 AM to give Lynn Cullen a fitting farewell. Everyone is invited to attend, but please email me to let me know if you plan to show up so they can plan for numbers --- I'll pass the info along to the organizers.
The studio is at 900 Parrish Street in Green Tree. It is not really a secret, but try not to bring it up if you have an email exchange with Lynn.
I think an all-financial talk radio station is just about the silliest idea since the man-station format. I've listened to some of the business chat and it can be interesting, but 24/7? Geez There's pretty much no topic I want to listen to for 24 hours a day. I think Lynn is a great product and I'm hopeful some other station will pick up on that. The problem at WPTT in my experience is a dismal sales team. When I was trying to help get John McIntire on the air, I would send leads that were never followed up on. Maybe those newly unemployed sales people can listen to their former station and get some tips on gumption.
Anyway, please blog about this -- I think we can all count Lynn's lone voice as an inspiration to go the mile where the MSM fears to tread, regardless of your political affiliation. And bloggers who can turn out, please do.
Friday, August 22
by Sue on Fri 22 Aug 2008 09:10 AM EDT
August 20, 2008
Thursday, August 21
by Sue on Thu 21 Aug 2008 08:38 AM EDT
According to the City Paper, Duquesne now includes sexual orientation among the classes against whom one may not discriminate. Previously, the school permitted the establishment of a campus Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA). News of the non-discrimination language change was news to the GSA. So much for the School of Communication.
Anyway, now the GSA is lobbying for domestic partner benefits. Duquesne doesn't think Uncle Ratzie would like that. I can kind of see their point. It is one thing to say that individuals who happen to be gay should not be targeted for abuse. That's consistent with Catholic teaching (if not practice). Spending Catholic $$ to lift up the relationships of unwed couples, straight and gay seems to be pushing it. A fine line, perhaps.
What would be more advantageous is for the GSA to push for open dialogue to challenge the corners of the campus where sexual orientation is not respected and valued. Make everyone on campus say the word "gay" and smile in a genuine, non-smirky way. I just can't imagine someone accepting a job at Duquesne and then quibbling about domestic partner benefits. But I'm still hung up on the censorship of WDUQ over Planned Parenthood.
by Sue on Thu 21 Aug 2008 08:21 AM EDT
Jerome Sherman must have read my blog yesterday because his background piece on Andre Thomas is featured in this morning's Post-Gazette. Or perhaps I am prescient.
I am dissatisfied. The article lays out Mr. Thomas' woes and troubles fairly objectively along with his efforts to turn things around. But anyone who thinks that attending church a few times and talking with the church pastor about communication and church attendance is the groundwork for an intervention .... sigh. What are people thinking? You can't pray away mental illness. Prayer and a faith community can be a good part of a support system, but at what point will someone in his support system put some accountability on Mr. Thomas for his own actions?
Mr. Sherman cannot access Mr. Thomas' records as far as any MH treatments or D&A treatments so we'll never know. And none of that, as I've said all along, justifies police brutality. The police should have used the necessary force to subdue him and that's it. Kicking someone is never part of that equation.
This is going to turn into the poor would-be Christian black man against the big bad police state. What a horrendous way to diminish the life of Andre Thomas. Too bad we can't scrutinize his life a bit more as a human being who needed help against the underfunded mental health system (and maybe the big bad insurance industry but I'm just speculating that he didn't have health insurance as he was self-employed). That might actually help people.