Ten Holiday Traditions on My List for 2024

I expect the winter holidays will be a little challenging. Not as raw as last year, perhaps more insistent on looking forward. So I made a list of traditions, new and old, and already invited friends to join me. I have no one with whom I’ll exchange gifts. Of course I’ll gift to my nephews, […]

The Ultimate Lesbian Dishwasher Questionnaire

Here’s a fun exercise about one of the most controversial household issues of the modern era – loading the dishwasher. I created 10 questions plus three bonus questions. Read on. Bonus The funny thing about quizzes like this is that there is no way to score it. There’s no astrological match, no ‘type of TV […]

Disability Pride Month: The Stories I Can’t Explain

Here’s how disability pride works. I’ve been home now for over four months. That’s a significant accomplishment, one many people doubted I could manage. I think a lot of people expected me to just roll over and give up, to build something new instead of returning to claim my life of 20 years. But this […]

Updates Are People or Spreading My Truth

An update is important, especially when the storyline involves people we value. That’s probably why we love franchise movies so much – we want another chapter, a way to stay connected to characters who are important to us. That includes those who are fast and furious as well as those who avenge us. See what […]

My First Week Coming Home

Cats watching TV

One week since I returned home. Spent most of it balancing settling in against new routines. I still have a few boxes to unpack,  but I’m mostly done. During my cats visits, I intentionally sat in the spots tied to the police executing the 302 warrant. I sat on the floor where we talked. I […]

Watch Me Try to Stand on My Feet Again

Your heart, your will, your car-They’ve all been brokenYou let everybodyYou got beatAnd it’s not entertainingWatching you try to stand on your feet again Can’t stop the world The GoGo’s Monday was my first full day back in my home. I slept pretty late, both because I was exhausted and because there’s no window in […]

Just know you’re not alone. Cause they are going to make this place my home

Tomorrow, I am going home. It was more than six months ago since I was removed from my home of 18+ years with an invalid petition to involuntarily commit me. I was released in under five hours. But the locks to my home were changed. A good family lawyer righted that wrong, but it took […]

What is the Key to My Returning Home After Six Months? A House (re)Warming Party and I Need Your Help

House key

I’m going home. On Sunday, to be precise. It took more than six months, a lot of lawyers, and more to get myself home to my cats. This is the part where I once again ask for help. I will be moving into the spare bedroom and creating a little living/lounge area in a part […]

Eight Things I Learned During Eight Weeks of Being Locked Out of My Home

8 Things I Learned

Today is a day of celebration – my birthday and the 2 year anniversary of Pittsburgh LGBTQ Charities, the 501c3 I established in 2021. Today, I learned a lot from both. Also, today marks eight weeks since I was locked out of my home against my will and kept from returning to my cats, returning […]

What Is The Key to Getting Myself Home Again?

After five weeks have passed, I’m thinking a little more down the road including finding the key to go back home. So many of my rights and liberties were taken from me or violated that I am determined to lean into every right I can, cling tightly, and keep my eyes wide open for other […]