Now that I am an old woman, I shall eat dinner from a plate that’s purple, with a red dish for bread.

While chatting with a friend recently, I commented how I had always wanted Fiesta ware. Our household dishes are a mishmash of inherited partial sets that we never got around to updating. I’m pretty sure they aren’t actually safe in the microwave or dishwasher, but they’ve been fused together by time and determination. At the […]

Perchance, Manchester house is the solution to my problems?

There’s a house on my block that was recently renovated, not restored. It has been on and off the market. The current asking price is $284,000. The house is 1300 square feet with 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, and an office. Plus living room and kitchen. I could store the entire pet food pantry in one […]

Just a ghost in this house?

This week marked an important milestone for me – I got myself back home two years ago after six months of being homeless. That was March 10, 2024. It’s legal, but tenuous. So I began to wonder – am I still homeless? I’ve lived here since July 18, 2005. That’s the longest I’ve lived anywhere […]

Impious and irreverent ‘sweary’ calendars are good for your mental health

I like calendars – being oriented to date and time are good mental health practices. I like calendars with attitude. And cats. In 2025, I had three wall calendars and one daily tear away calendar. The tear away was filled with women’s quotes, but in a bland way that focused on traditional messages. But I […]

Sourcing Winter Cat Shelter Whilst Reflecting on My Future

Only four days into NaBloPoMo and I’m scrambling to get a post up in the next 51 minutes. Democrats won every single election. I’m sure the analysis will feed news stories for days to come. While it is much needed good news, it still is like the bare minimum to navigate the terror in the […]

I Climbed the Ladder to the Kitchen, not Success

My therapist recently asked me to recount a childhood experience where I felt or knew that I had been abandoned. At some point in our childhood, my parents started taking off for little drives on my Dad’s off days. They would leave while we were still at school and come home when the spirit moved […]

Nostalgia and Trauma: How Cleaning My Room Reminds Me Why I Have So Much Clothing

This weekend, I had a lot of time and an empty house so I decided to tackle a few tasks for me – tasks that would make me feel more comfortable, more satisfied, more content I guess. Laundry was a big one. I have a lot of laundry packed in IKEA bags. I had off-season […]

How to help me with housing

After I wrote the blog post “Here’s the truth about housing after a divorce” I received two questions – “What are you going to do?” and “Why aren’t you mobilizing your followers?” I don’t know what I’m going to do. The post laid out the assorted options. I have to believe there is a way […]

Here’s the truth about housing after a divorce

As you know I’m in the middle of a divorce. Contentious, one might say. It has been very rough. So many legal questions. We have been together since 2003, lived together since 2005, and domestic partners since 2006. We married in 2021. So its a 2.5 year marriage and a 16 year partnership, a 18.5 […]

How Responding to a Crowdfund Shows You Understand the Assignment

My friend Melissa set up a crowdfund for my legal and living expenses in September 2023. It is still active and still needed. I’ve posted 48 updates, about 2x month, to keep donors and supporters informed on the legal issues, the living issues, and other items. This is the 48th update pasted below. I work […]