My Big Idea for the New Mayor as Published in the Post-Gazette

I was recently asked to contribute to a compendium piece in the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette on “big ideas” for the next Mayor of Pittsburgh. Other contributors include economist Chris Briem, Cheryl Hall-Russell from Hill House Assocation, Jon Rubin from CMU and Leah Lizarondo of “The Brazen Kitchen” blog and more!

Image: Daniel Marsula, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

Image: Daniel Marsula, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

Here’s what I submitted:

Emphasize equality

Sue Kerr, editor, Pittsburgh Lesbian Correspondents

Address LGBTQ equality with standout reforms that protect everyone and create an inclusive workplace culture to attract new business development — reforms similar to those in Philadelphia and those found in the Human Rights Campaign’s Municipal Equality Index. These would include:

1) A tax credit to companies that provide domestic partner health insurance coverage. 2) A tax offset on city employees’ domestic partner health insurance which is currently counted as pre-tax income, unlike family coverage for married employees. 3) Reduced barriers for low-income LGBTQ families to join the domestic partner registry. 4) Gender-neutral bathrooms required for new construction or renovation of city facilities. 5) A new office of LGBTQ or diversity affairs. 6) LGBTQ community members recruited for public safety roles as well as board and council appointments.

The focus is on creating opportunity, not solely preventing discrimination or responding to discriminatory treatment.

These are not new-to-me ideas. I’ve come across a few in various articles, reports and white papers on municipal policy. While it is good to have local support for issues such as marriage equality, it is equally important to educate our municipal electeds about the many ways in which they can actually create a more equal society, not just support one.

In November 2013, the Human Rights Campaign will issue a follow-up “Municipal Equality Index” report which will not only include the three more densel LGBTQ populated regions in the state, but also the largest cities. So while Pittsburgh is *not* among the former, it should be part of the equation in 2013. That’s clearly too soon for the new Mayor to have an impact (he won’t even be the Mayor!) but it will set a clear benchmark for him – a chance to look critically at our equality issues as they are defined in 2013, not 1999.

We’ve reached a point where measuring a candidate’s stance on domestic partner benefits, non-discrimination laws and marriage equality are not sufficient for the local level. I was a little shocked to realize that Pittsburgh’s LGBTQ population was not large enough to include us in the 2012 edition of the index – we’ve lost LGBTQ residents. Nonetheless, we’ll now have something to start from and November allows both Steel City Stonewall and the Gertrude Stein Club ample time to revisit their candidate questionnaires for the primary in 2014.

 

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A Tale of Two Birthday Parties – Not All Endings Are Happy

Saturday evening, a group of friends joined Ledcat and me to celebrate her 50th birthday. We had dinner at Cambod-Ican Kitchen, a Cambodian fusion restaurant on the South Side of Pittsburgh. It is one of our favorites and we consider the owners to be very dear to us. We had champagne, we had birthday cake, we had singing and we had great food.

Around 9 PM, things wrapped up and after getting things sorted out – Ledcat and I talked about how best to get everything to the car which was parked about a block away on Carson Street. After 8:30 ish, South Side doesn’t feel so safe and welcoming for us – too many inebriated people, too much rude behavior and the occasional hassle. We hustled to the car, packed everything away and were safely on our way home.

In London, Christopher Bryant, editor of Polari an online LGBTQ magazine, also celebrated his birthday last night. His evening ended differently. From GayStarNews

Christopher Bryant, editor of Polari magazine, and his partner Damon were walking home from Bryant’s birthday dinner through South London’s Betts Park when the couple was intercepted by a group of six men, who started speeding up and following the couple down the path.

Bryant told GSN that as soon as they started running, the men started running as well, and first caught his partner Damon.

He told GSN: ‘It all went down so fast.’

When Bryant doubled-back to get the attackers off his partner, they beat him to the ground, kicking his face and saying ‘stay down faggot’.

Bryant said that every time he tried to look up, his attackers would kick him in the face and said ‘don’t try anything’.

Here’s Christopher:

Photo: Gay Star News

Photo: Gay Star News

Here’s our party:

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So at the end of our respective parties celebrating birthdays, we set out with our partners. We ended up safely at home, they ended up in the emergency room.

Really, it could have been different. There’s a tension in the air on the South Side at night – we rarely stay past 9 when we dine. Given what happened to JourDyn and Emprez at Margaritaville in January 2013, it is perfectly fair to assume there are homophobic assholes on the South Side who won’t hesitate to hit queer folks – men, women, any age, etc. It was just a few years ago when a very large man slid out of his car in broad daylight in Downtown Pittsburgh to confront us for being “fucking dykes.”

I don’t have some massive philosophical point to make. I’m just struck by the fact that it was the same night as Ledcat’s birthday. And I’m acutely aware of our “vulnerable” moments. And I’m sad. And angry. I can’t help thinking “My God what would I have done if someone attacked us on Carson Street while we were juggling cake and bottles of wine and presents and stuff?” Would the presence of people nearby have mattered? Would our friends at Cambod-Ican have heard (I know they would have come to our aid?) Would I have fought back? Would I have had a chance to deescalate?

COULD it have happened? Yes, it could have. See this photo.

Emprez & JourDyn were attacked in Pgh bar in Jan 2013

Emprez & JourDyn were attacked in Pgh bar in Jan 2013

We have to stand up to the hate. In the past few months, our team here has described a myriad of ways that homophobia and transphobia has hurt us – from Jen learning she still can’t be a den mother to the brutal murder of Cemia Acoff in Cleveland to a trans student being denied the right to   graduate with their chosen name. We’ve covered blogs being banned, sexual assault, the struggle to keep our jobs, the unfair taxes we pay, the strange situation of being unable to divorce, and so forth.

I hope you will take a moment to think how you can do something to make it better. Ledcat, Christopher and Damon are making it better today. Pick an action, any action and do it.

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Trib Editorial Cartoonist Finalist for Boy Scout Critique

Here’s a little Pittsburgh angle on the Boy Scout story. Tribune Review editorial cartoonist Randy Bish was a finalist in the Golden Quill awards for his work on the Boy Scouts anti-gay stance. Here are two fine examples of his work. 

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I really like the first cartoon – it captures the truth that the Boy Scouts are teaching their young men to discriminate. And that’s a very damaging “life skill” lesson. To me, it gets to the heart of the matter – discriminating against gay scouts or LGBTQ parents and families – it all reinforces the concept of earning a badge for discrimination.

The Scouts are set to vote this week on a partial lifting of the ban, for scouts themselves while still prohibiting adults from participating. This splicing/parsing approach is a painful slap to the LGBTQ adults who have volunteered their time and energy to the organization – I can’t imagine how painful it must be to suggest that once you are an adult, you are not fit to be around these kids. It is also a confusing message for 15 and 16 year olds and 8 year olds, too.

Our hope is that somehow, someone will help the Boy Scouts realize that this policy change is not an acceptable “step in the right direction.”

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