Nice Is A Matter of Necessity

Tell us about the nicest thing you’ve ever done. Impossible. Two things come immediately to mind when I reread this prompt. First is the mantra to be a ‘nice girl’ which just makes me shudder. Second is the thought that we use “nice” as a command for our dogs to do something gently – like […]

Oh, I Cry Over Spilt Milk

Another day to combine prompts. This time: Do you have a bad temper? How often do you lose your temper? Look in the mirror. Does the person you see match the person you feel like on the inside? How much stock do you put in appearances? I’ve been looking in the mirror for over a […]

I’d Rather Remember My 39th Birthday

Do you still feel pressure of conform? If no, what age did it stop? Also, Write a post inspired by your sixteenth birthday. Oh, my dear question generator, you are obviously not part of a subculture or a subculture within a subculture. The “pressure to conform” to being straight is all around you. Open the newspaper […]

How a Dying Mall Taught Me Survival Skills

You’ve been kidnapped and given a choice: would you rather be stranded on an island, dropped into an unknown forest, or locked in a strange building? As a fan of procedural dramas on television as well having spent more of my life working inside buildings, I would have the best chance to survive inside a […]

The Man Who Shovels Snow

Shovel Neighbor's Walk

Who was the first person you encountered today? Write about him or her. I’m going to exclude my partner Laura from this question since I write about her all of the time. That would make the first person I encountered to be my neighbor’s great-nephew. My neighbor, Ms. M, is in her 80’s and lives […]

I am not grace under pressure. I am necessity under pressure.

“Courage is grace under pressure” is a famous quotation by Ernest Hemingway. Tell us about a personal moment of your grace under pressure. I’m having more fun researching the quotes than I expected. This is actually not an accurate quote, nor did Hemingway himself write it.The character said the following in a movie about Hemingway: […]

Strongly Afraid

Marge Piercy said: “A strong woman is a woman determined to do something others are determined not be done.” Tell us about a time when you did what couldn’t be done. As I review various advocacy projects in my mind that fit this criteria, I realize how the devil is in the detail. For example, […]

If I Could Guarantee These People Read My Blog

Pittsburgh Lesbian

If you could have a guarantee that one, specific person was reading your blog, who would you want that person to be? Why? What do you want to say to them? I have a list. It is not in order of preference. First, Mayor Bill Peduto’s deputy chief of staff, John Fournier. It would be […]

That Time When Dan Onorato Didn’t Make Me Cry

Pittsburgh politics

Eleanor Roosevelt said: “A woman is like a tea bag – you can’t tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.” Tell us about a time you felt your strength. First of all, Eleanor Roosevelt probably didn’t say this. Many other people have said it, including Phyllis Schlafley and Hillary Clinton, […]

How The Selfie Transformed My World

#365FeministSelfie

I absolutely hate photos of me. Or I used to hate them. Now I sometimes like some of them a little bit. Like many women, I am my own worst critic about my appearance. I’m fat, ugly, crooked teeth, scar on my lip, etc, etc, etc. But the thing I’ve hated the most are my […]