Name: Tristan Age: 28 County of Residence: Allegheny Pronouns: He/Him How do you describe your identity? Gay, Mexican-American Comedian and Writer, and drag queen Please describe your coming out experience. Where did you find support? What challenges did you face? I came out when I was 15 to my parents. I don’t know why I […]
Name: Pastor Reed Age: 48 County of Residence: Westmoreland County. Formerly, Dauphin, Snyder, and Adams counties Pronouns: He, him, his How do you describe your identity? Pastor, teacher, son, gay, loving, accepting Please describe your coming out experience. Where did you find support? What challenges did you face? I came out over years of time. I found support from my closest friends. […]
Name: August Age: 46 County of Residence: Allegheny, formerly Dauphin Pronouns: He How do you describe your identity? Homosexual. Please describe your coming out experience. Where did you find support? What challenges did you face? I was by myself and my brother has been my biggest support. As for the LGBT community on a whole, it has proven to be […]
Name: Joel Age: 35 County of Residence: Allegheny. Grew up in Crawford. College in Mercer Pronouns: he/him/his How do you describe your identity? Gay, Trans Guy, Polyamorous, Christian, Parent, Husband. Please describe your coming out experience. Where did you find support? What challenges did you face? I first came out to my husband as trans in 2012. I was […]
Content Note: sexual assault Name: Scott Age: 53 County of Residence: Washington County born & raised. Also lived in Indiana & Allegheny counties before moving to New Mexico, where I’ve lived for the past 20 years. Pronouns: they/them/theirs How do you describe your identity? I’ve been an out, loud & proud gay man since 1981. Within the past year […]
As we’ve shared, a 23-year-old gay man named Dakota James has been missing for several weeks. His extended family have poured into town, searching tirelessly and drawing other people into their efforts. A reward of $10,000 is offered for information leading to the whereabouts of Dakota. New information has come to light from video footage, […]
Name: Jason Zubovic Age: 42 County of Residence: Fayette, formerly Allegheny and Westmoreland counties Preferred Pronouns: Mr. and Miss – him and her How do you describe your identity? I am an openly gay white male entertainer with an amazing partner of three years. Please describe your coming out experience. Where did you find support? What challenges did you face? My […]
How would you describe yourself NOW in terms of “being out”?
I am 100% viewed by most as being out as a gay man, which is funny since I have spent most of my adulthood as bi- or pan-sexual (I adopted the pan-sexual identity after first hearing about it). But, I am a cis-gender man who is married to a cis-gender man. Since most people just assume that means I am gay, that is what I am generally seen as. So, I suppose I am “out,” just not everyone knows the full story.
Have you ever experienced discrimination based on your identity? Specifically, in a job setting, when applying for housing or while in public. While living in Butler, whether past or present, it is not safe to be a member of the LGBTQ+ community or perceived to be a member. When living in Butler, I received threats, was harassed, had my car vandalized and have been physically harmed as a result of being gay and prior to coming out, for being perceived as a gay person. I think a mistake is being made if people deny a problem exists. Just because someone says something does not exists, doesn’t mean it doesn’t.
In June 2015, we added this question to the Q&A
“What motivated you to take part in this project?”
The responses have been enlightening when I consider why people take 30-60 minutes to share some of their most personal thoughts with the wide world. Their investment isn’t fleeting – the Q&A will live on as our archived collective experiences.
“I particularly wanted to participate because I wanted an older perspective to be included.”