Things You Might Learn and Experience Processing Your Trauma

Today, I saw my trauma therapist. I’ve been working with her for eight years, through her transferring to three practices and countless psychiatrists. She’s working PT now so I also have a primary care therapist so my time with Brittany is spent on trauma work. After I told her I wrote a post about our […]

This is My Birthday Week – 55 Here I Am!

Wednesday, October 22, 2025 is my 55th birthday. Woo hoo. Manifesting My Destiny My annual plan is to order myself a small cake from the Giant Eagle bakery (even though I’m very disappointed with their customer service right now – they make great cake.) Then I load up my all time favorite movie ‘When Harry […]

Happy birthday to me. Next week, I’ll turn 55.

Content Notes: childhood sexual violence, grooming, birthdays, anxiety, cats I have birthday issues. Not a real surprise to long-time readers. Or my friends. Or anyone who knows me. I used to think it was simple anxiety. But through my trauma processing work and therapy in general, I’ve sort of had a breakthrough. Birthdays are about […]

My Eyes are Pink and Painful

I was 54 years old before I contracted double pink eye – conjunctivitis in both eyes. And it sucks. Woke up this morning with nasal congestion and that weird weepy need to depressurize feeling in my left eye. I thought it was sinuses. Blew my nose, drank a hot beverage and it was no better. […]

The Eyes Have It: Revealing the Truth About Growing Up With Eye Disorders

Content Note: disability, bullying, child neglect, resilience, superheroes, body neutrality This is my school photo from late September 1975. I was four years old, in kindergarten. If you squint, you can just see my protruding eyes and the beginning of my lazy eye. I had glasses (and the patch) soon after. But here I look […]

The Impact of Police Trauma on My Life

Here Come the Police Last night, a friend stopped by with some meals for me. I jumped in the car with her to avoid the torrent of rain. She was parked behind my house in an alley, but under a streetlight. We chatted about our days, caught up on assorted things. It was maybe 20 […]

When Occasional Empty Spaces Get You Down

I am restless today, but in that quiet way where my body is still while my mind leaps from topic to topic. The plan for today was to clean the cab of Gertie. She’s a mess. But it feels like 90 degrees outside so I’ll have to wait a few hours. My back hurts. I […]

Q&A with Hannah Davy: This is not the end, we will keep fighting and never give up.

What message do you have for trans and queer youth?  You are 100% worthy of being here, being you, and having the care you deserve. There are many of us who are here trying our hardest to keep that for you. We see you, we hear you, and we want you to know that we […]

Q&A with Katherine: Many Of Us Will Always Choose to “Aid and Abet” For Trans Kids

What message do you have for trans and queer youth?  We love you. We will fight for you, always. Your only job is to be a kid, to learn who you are, to experiment, to fuck up, to keep going. Our job as the adults who love you is to protect you. They want to […]

Q&A with Kailey Andrew: Gender Affirming Healthcare is Legal in Pennsylvania

What message do you have for trans and queer youth? You are not alone. Don’t let them erase you. This isn’t the first time or the last time that trans people will have to fight to exist – don’t give up the fight. Read up on your history and take pride in it. Make art. Write […]