Saying “No” is a Revolutionary Act

setting boundaries

Recently, I blew up at another LGBTQ advocate who made some choices that I found questionable. I ended the conversation by telling them “Please don’t message me. I need a break from you. Thank you.” A week later, they unexpectedly sent me an expository email to help me understand their perspective and tell me how […]

Vote “No” on the Pittsburgh Parks Conservancy Tax Referendum

Vote No Referendum

Another year, another ballot referendum trying to circumvent the “no taxation without representation” theory of governance. This time it is the Parks Conservancy which wants funding for parks and doesn’t want the hassle of going through the normal City budgeting process. So 2018. The question would ask voters whether they support raising property taxes starting […]

What Happens When We Don’t Listen to Black Women in Pittsburgh

Black Women Pittsburgh

I’m still struggling along this week so I’ve had to skip a few significant stories I’d typically blog about. But I am paying attention. I live about a mile away from the Exxon gas station in Marshall-Shadeland where three male employees assaulted two Black women over what amounted to $17 worth of gas. I encourage […]

Arnold’s Tea Will Remain Open

Arnold's Tea Pittsburgh

Good news about Arnold’s Tea, a local Black owned business that was facing potential eviction and termination of their lease. First, it is critical to note that 3200+ people signed the Change.org petition to keep Arnold’s Tea open. That’s impressive. HDDC Board President Barbara Burns and her leadership team should open the books, explain how […]

Keep Arnold’s Tea Open: Sign the Petition

Arnold's Tea Pittsburgh

Arnold’s Tea is one of the best spaces on the Northside from early days under the ownership of Verna Arnold in 2015 through the current incarnation with Chef Claudy Pierre. It is a gorgeous roomy restaurant with plenty of comfortable seating right in the heart of East Ohio Street on Pittsburgh’s Northside neighborhood of East […]

78 Bi+ Stories From Western Pennsylvania #BiVisibility

Since 1999: Bisexual+ Awareness Week seeks to accelerate acceptance of the bi+ (pansexual, fluid, no label, queer, etc.) community. #BiWeek draws attention to the experiences, while also celebrating the resiliency of, the bisexual+ community. Throughout #BiWeek, allies and bi+ people learn about the history, culture, community, and current policy priorities of bi+ communities. In honor […]

It’s been a hard week in Pittsburgh to be a survivor of childhood sexual violence

Content Note: abuse, sexual assault, isolation It’s been a hard week in Pittsburgh to be a survivor of childhood sexual violence. Pittsburgh Pirate pitched Felipe Vasquez has been charged with multiple accounts related to a three year span of sexual violence targeting a girl from ages 13-15. PA State Senator Mike Folmer resigned after authorities […]

It’s not about sex. It is about violence, sexual violence an adult inflicted on a kid.

Sexual Assault

Content Note: sexual assault, child abuse, When news broke that yet another famous entitled man was engaged in sexually violating a child, in this case a 13-year-old girl, I felt nothing. Just empty resignation and quiet despair. Pirates pitcher Felipe Vazquez on Tuesday admitted to police that he attempted to have sex with a 13-year-old […]

Ja’leyah-Jamar, 28, of Kansas City is 19th Trans Person to be Murdered in 2019

Ja'leyah Jamar

Ja’leyah-Jamar was 28 years old when she was killed on Friday, September 13 in Kansas City. She is the 19th transgender person to be murdered in the United States during 2019, to date. Ja’leyah is also the 18th Black trans woman on that list. Misgendering and deadnaming have contributed to the delay in confirming Ja’leyah’s […]

Black Trans Woman Bee Love Was 21 When She Was Murdered in Clewiston, Florida This Week

Dee Love Trans Woman

  Another Black trans woman has been murdered, this time in Clewiston, Florida. Her name was Bee Love. She was 21 years old, just a week away from her 22nd birthday.  Clewiston is part of the Florida Heartland, a region closer to the Deep South than coastal Florida cities. It has been just 24 hours […]