Today is the day we celebrate the lesbians in our lives – Lesbian Visibility Day. According to Wikipedia. I’ve been diligently trying to track down other sources for this so-called visibility day that started in 2008, but I’ve had little in the way of luck. Google seems to indicate it has not been ‘a thing’ for several years.
I am not a lesbian who bemoans the loss of lesbian cultural touchstones (often bars) because I find it wonderful to have all these sober choices and more visibility for a nuanced understanding of sexual orientation and gender identity. Perhaps my status as an adult child and someone who came out in my late twenties after I had left bar life behind me impacts my response to equating lesbian bar culture with lesbian culture. I was never part of that culture so I don’t miss it per se.
My fear about this visibility day is that it may be grounded more in radical feminism of the TERF variant which excludes most of my friends than in a celebration that includes all lesbian voices. And even having been TERFed, I worry that I’ll be perceived or be propping up those folks whose views are abhorrent to me.
Cindy Rizzo has a piece on Medium exploring that issue and many reasons why we should celebrate lesbian visibility all of the time.
That being said, I identify as a lesbian and place incredible value on the preservation of our history AND the redefining of our roles in today’s culture. And I believe in including all of the lesbian voices in this project. As you browse through the list below, give some thought to the rich variety of experiences and contributions these women have to offer.
Lesbians have been front and center in the AMPLIFY project, sharing their experiences across a 50 year time span. Here are 59 stories about lesbian culture in Western Pennsylvania, ranging from women in their early 70’s to their early 20’s.
- Marcia, 58, is Cisgender, Lesbian & Slightly Gender Nonconforming
- Wendi, 31, Describes Being a Trans Ally in Her Workplace
- Regina, 33, Finds Comfort in Lesbian Ambiguity
- Emily, 40, Talks About LGBTQ Visibility, Intersectionality & Resiliency
- Shari, 57, Wants More Inclusivity & Power for QTPOC
- Laura, 44, is a Lesbian Mom in Fayette County
- Emma, 28, Keeps Her Queer Eyes Open in Pittsburgh
- Morgan, 21, Hasn’t Met Other Openly Gay Suburban Couples
- Hayley, 46, Wants To Keep That Pride Feeling Year Round
- Cheryl, 42, Wants Us To See Everyone in the LGBTQ Community
- Eileen, 52, Reflects on the Awakening of Her LGBTQ Community
- Rach, 36, Loves a Girl in Armstrong County
- Kay, 27: Not Ashamed of the Reality of Me
- Heidi, 28, Learned That It’s Okay To Be A LGBT Christian
- Camellia, 30, is a Lesbian, Soon-to-be Wife, and Momma
- Patricia, 41, Does Not Feel Safe as a Trans Woman in Her Urban Pgh Suburb
- Mariah, 38, Wants More Support for Westmoreland LGBTQ Neighbors
- Lisa Believes Being Out and Honest is ‘Like Flying’‘
- Sara, 28, Single Mom, Agnostic Jew, and Queer in Ohio
- Diane, 56, Is Asexual With Lesbian Leanings and a Writer
- Pixie, 26, is Androgynous, Non-binary, Genderqueer and Lesbian, But Identifies as Pixie
- Jill, 49, Wants Young LGBTQ People To Have a Safe Place to Go In Cambria County
- Dani Janae, 23, Identifies as a Black Femme Lesbian Poet & Trauma Survivor
- For Jodi’s Kids, Having Two Mothers Is Just a Fact of Life
- Char, 62, is a “Very Late Bloomer” Lesbian in Cambria County
- Kim, 44, Say She Lost Her Job in Beaver County Because She’s a Lesbian
- Alissa, 34, is Just Another Girl in the Crowd in Lawrence County
- KK Compares Small Town Michigan to Pittsburgh
- De, 49, is Concerned About LGBTQ Youth in Rural Western PA
- Viva Valezz is a Queer Burlesque Performer Parenting a Gender Fluid Child
- As a Lesbian, Shelly Values Her Ties to Rural Indiana County
- Gloria a Happy Black Lesbian
- Sara, 35, On Her Reality as a Lesbian in Western Pennsylvania
- Dinah Denmark: Lesbian, Jewish, Buddhist
- Kathi Wants To Connect with LGBTQ Elders in Rural Communities
- Casey, 38, Honors One Year Since Coming Out As a Gay Woman
- Mair, 55, Came Out the Same Week As Ellen DeGeneres #AMPLIFY
- Shaquanna Wants Families to Have Positive Conversations With LGBTQ Relatives
- Jess is a Lesbian Mother Who Wants More Family Friendly Resources
- Saintly Sinner is a Cisgender Lesbi Not So Flexible Black Biological Womyn
- Jaime From The ReelQ Film Festival Says Yep I’m Gay
- Taylor Wants More LGBTQ Resources and Community Unity #AMPLIFY
- Alexandria is a Lesbian Artist Trying To Get Her Bearings
- Maria Wants You To Know a Family Like Hers #AMPLIFY
- Shawna on Her Unique Experience as a Lesbian in Indiana County #AMPLIFY
- For Kristina, Being Out is Her Normal
- Bee Asks Where Single Parents Fit Into the LGBTQ Community
- Jessi is a Trans Lesbian Who Asks Questions
- Vic Lives Closeted in Westmoreland County
- Kayden Wants to Be Safe Holding Her Partner’s Hand in Pittsburgh
- Cindy Has Been Fundraising for the GLCC for 14 Years
- Carmen is a Queer Black Womyn From Pittsburgh
- Amber Has Always Been Proud of Being OUT
- Shell is Proud of the Positive Impact of Pittsburgh Black Pride
- Skip Believes The Act of Coming Out Is a Continuous Process
- Jan Offers an Older Perspective on LGBTQ Pittsburgh
- Meg Is a Country Queer
- kelly emphasizes that ‘gay is not the totality of me’
- Joyce Believes Tolerance Is Not Acceptance
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