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This blog isn’t exactly a diary or journal. I do share a lot of my life, at least the interesting parts. At the very least, the interesting to me parts. It is 10:32 on a Saturday night in September. Earlier today, I wrestled some cat food bags and did the dishes. Then I had a […]
In a horrifying act, an 18-year-old trans and queer teen was shot to death by their own father. Their name was Onyx Cornish. This took place in Caldwell, Idaho on Tuesday, August 19, 2025. The Crime PEOPLE magazine published details from the probably cause affidavit. This is hard to read. I have modified to correct […]
Last week, we reported on the disappearance of a 26 year old trans drag artist from Canton, Ohio. Sadly, police have now determined this is a homicide investigation. Canton police announced late Thursday that the disappearance of JJ Godbey is now a homicide investigation. They’ve charged Daniel Mattay, Ryan’s former boyfriend, with four felonies: murder, […]
All week, I’ve been loading donations for The Dr. John P. Ruffing VMD Pet Food Pantry into my borrowed Land Rover that we’ve dubbed St. Gertrude or Gertie. She contains multitudes of cat food. Now,there’s no interior light so I bought a head lamp. I added a USB port to the cigarette light – oh […]
I am two years late in posting the obituary of Maggie Ritchey. It is important to include tributes to the lives and deaths of our elders in this archive. International Lesbian Day seems like a good time to honor Maggie. I met Maggie through the Persad ‘Voice for a New Tomorrow’ group. in the mid […]
The Story of John Ruffing Some of you remember John Ruffing WMS c/o 84. During the 80’s, he worked in the mall food court for years, hiring many of us. He went to Cal U then Penn to become a veterinarian. Then he worked in Dravosburg and Pleasant Hills among other spaces. In addition, he […]
My Dad died on February 28, 2024. Early that morning, I arrived at the funeral home and see one arrangement of flowers. They were from my brother’s coworkers. Two more arrangements arrived later that day. I don’t know who sent them. That was it. We had listed ‘Kerry’s Kittens‘ as a charity in lieu of […]
Two years ago this month, I wrote a similar blog post My Mother Died Last Night. I don’t know if it a coincidence or a sign that my father died in the same month. This was a Facebook post I created this morning. I’m posting here to preserve it. I will write a more traditional […]
Two years ago, my mother died on this date. I think about her more often now. Even when it is a sad memory, I almost instantly remember that she’s at peace. I can miss her, but not regret that she’s gone. Not in a “better place” sort of way, but that she served her time […]
“To be properly recognized by the city is essentially a beautiful moment for me knowing that it’s a stepping stone for kids to not ever have to feel how I felt or how other kids around me kind of felt like growing up,” they said. “No one was teaching or sharing trans joy around me […]
