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This Caturday I am sad. My pending divorce means our cats will be divided like property. Which cats remain with which human depends on multiple factors – bonds, capacity, preference, etc. We can’t explain to them why we are tearing their cat family apart. I may not see some of my cats ever again, a […]
I’ve been exploring some of the precode movies related to divorce to distract my mind. Perhaps that seems odd. Some of my friends have asked if they can reach out to shore up some help for me, mainly lodging. Having been unexpectedly homeless for 196 days in 2023, I know that’s a big lift. Nobody […]
I’ve written about the potential harm on my housing and healthcare. What about the blog? This blog has 21+ years of archival content of LGBTQ+ experiences in this region. I had a plan for preservation. With grant funding, I hoped to contract with a queer archivist, a graphic designer, and a web designer to prepare […]
Last week I wrote about my housing situation – it is quite grim. Let me summarize – I won’t be able to afford private housing, not even a room to let. I won’t be eligible for ‘programs’ that makes up the public safety net. No one has offered me a spare bedroom or even a […]
I’ve always been slightly haunted by a 1952 novel Excellent Women. The main character is a modest, unassuming woman in post-WWII London. She’s an excellent woman, always on hand to help with all the church stuff. She has a modest little life, unrequited love, and all these expectations heaped on her as the nation recovers […]
So the divorce trial approaches. That’s hard. It is even harder to think about what comes next. Appeals. Will I be able to fund them? Will I have a place to live that’s safe and secure? Am I going to have any agency in my life again? Today marks three years since I launched my […]
My spouse chose Groundhogs Day for our wedding so she wouldn’t forget the date. It was a cute comment at the time. Until it wasn’t. I never truly thought I would have a wedding day. In part because of marriage inequality, in part because my trauma demons told me I didn’t deserve one. But we […]
Today, my GoFundMe reached the halfway mark – $20,000. Obviously, that means the goal is $40,000. For now. It means a great deal to me that you continue to support me, to help with legal and living expenses. Life is really hard right now, but I do find moments of joy and satisfaction. My friends […]
Thank you for your donations. You have made it possible for me to get this far. Scroll down for a current ask I have, but first I want to talk about the possibility of my being homeless. On Wednesday, we had another conciliation hearing. The outcome is that the cases go back to the Family […]
Why are nearly 50% of same sex couples still cohabitating without getting married? This post is part of my ongoing court cases around same sex divorce, civil rights, and trauma. I have three legal cases and one additional legal action sort of floating around involving my work to Protect Trans Kids. I still need help […]
