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Last week I wrote about my housing situation – it is quite grim. Let me summarize – I won’t be able to afford private housing, not even a room to let. I won’t be eligible for ‘programs’ that makes up the public safety net. No one has offered me a spare bedroom or even a […]
I’ve always been slightly haunted by a 1952 novel Excellent Women. The main character is a modest, unassuming woman in post-WWII London. She’s an excellent woman, always on hand to help with all the church stuff. She has a modest little life, unrequited love, and all these expectations heaped on her as the nation recovers […]
So the divorce trial approaches. That’s hard. It is even harder to think about what comes next. Appeals. Will I be able to fund them? Will I have a place to live that’s safe and secure? Am I going to have any agency in my life again? Today marks three years since I launched my […]
My spouse chose Groundhogs Day for our wedding so she wouldn’t forget the date. It was a cute comment at the time. Until it wasn’t. I never truly thought I would have a wedding day. In part because of marriage inequality, in part because my trauma demons told me I didn’t deserve one. But we […]
Today, my GoFundMe reached the halfway mark – $20,000. Obviously, that means the goal is $40,000. For now. It means a great deal to me that you continue to support me, to help with legal and living expenses. Life is really hard right now, but I do find moments of joy and satisfaction. My friends […]
Thank you for your donations. You have made it possible for me to get this far. Scroll down for a current ask I have, but first I want to talk about the possibility of my being homeless. On Wednesday, we had another conciliation hearing. The outcome is that the cases go back to the Family […]
Why are nearly 50% of same sex couples still cohabitating without getting married? This post is part of my ongoing court cases around same sex divorce, civil rights, and trauma. I have three legal cases and one additional legal action sort of floating around involving my work to Protect Trans Kids. I still need help […]
You can read the backstory here. Thanks to donations after the last update, our small goal is down to $112. Our next step is to arrange for a historic home appraisal. There are four points in time – purchase, date of domestic partnership, date of marriage, and date of separation. I’m genuinely curious about that […]
On this date in 2023, my friends Melissa and Diane helped me to get this crowdfund started It was a Saturday morning after an anxious night. I had called RESOLVE to ask for their assistance getting my prescription medications from my home – I was still homeless, staying with friends at that point. So I […]
It is a crisp autumish Sunday afternoon this August 31 in the year 2025. Tomorrow is Labor Day. I did have plans for a project that fell through, so I am left to my own devices. Chores, laundry, nap. In the before-times, three day holiday weekends usually included housework, a project, and – this is […]
