Here’s to Us: Let’s Celebrate 20 Years of Blogging

Today this blog turns 20 years old, an era of words, images, and experiences I could not conceive of back on that chilly December day when I thrust myself into the blogosphere. Filled with curiosity, but lacking any expertise, I began. Quickly, I was off on a wonderful adventure I never saw coming as I […]

How to cope with relationship trauma and recovery

It feels important to acknowledge this day, this anniversary of a terrible series of events two years ago that upended my life forever. You can read the details here. The details matter, of course, but at the same time – it is today that matters. My due process rights were violated. I was homeless for […]

Today Marks My 17th Year on Facebook

I cannot remember why I joined Facebook. Curiosity, perhaps? Sometimes I try to recall different versions (remember walls?) and features (remember notes?) But I can’t recall fonts or tabs or any sort of organizing principle. I just remember the people and the moments. I’m not going to wax nostalgic about the site or the owners. […]

The Second Anniversary of the Death of My Mother

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Two years ago, my mother died on this date. I think about her more often now. Even when it is a sad memory, I almost instantly remember that she’s at peace. I can miss her, but not regret that she’s gone. Not in a “better place” sort of way, but that she served her time […]

Why I’m Giving A Wedding Anniversary Gift To Myself

Today is the third anniversary of my wedding. Obviously, if you read regularly, you know this is a difficult day. I decided to honor how important this is to me, regardless. My future intentions around my marriage and domestic partnership are not the same thing as the way I feel about the past 20 years […]

Snacktime in the Meadow of Love: My Third Wedding Anniversary

Today is the third anniversary of my wedding. Yet, I am alone at my friends’ home and assume my wife is at work. Happy anniversary! Yesterday, I looked at our wedding album, reread the newspaper coverage of the wedding, and – even though I was sad – I remembered how happy and excited I felt […]

20 Years as a Lesbian Couple

Yesterday, we celebrated our 20th anniversary. Like many couples our age, we celebrate the day of our ‘coupling’ and the date of our wedding. In wedding years, we are on year two. Our day was low-key. I picked up groceries, Laura cooked dinner. I didn’t feel well so we kept it simple and I laid […]