Why I Don’t Go Into the Woods

Like most kids, I grew up with a mixture of urban legend and cultural frights that together made for terrifying experiences. Our neighborhood was the border of “The Woods” which lent itself as a source of horrifying creatures sneaking through the backyard and into our lives. Nevermind that during the day, we ran wild and […]

Second Trans Woman Murdered in Baltimore

Mia Henderson

    Tonight comes more terrible news from Baltimore – the murder of 26-year-old Mia Henderson, a trans woman of color whose body was discovered today. From Parker Molloy at The Advocate: Police have identified the victim as 26-year-old Mia Henderson, and said her murder bore similarities to that of another transgender woman, killed in Baltimore […]

Petition: Keep Domestic Partner Benefits Until PA Passes Statewide Non-Discrimination

UPDATE: Nearly 550 signatures in three days. Let’s keep this going.  UPDATE: Over 150 signatures in less than 24 hours. Will you lend your name?Allegheny County in Southwestern Pennsylvania has announced plans to eliminate domestic partner benefits for employees, effective July 31, 2014. Same sex couples who receive benefits have until that date to legally marry […]

Arrest in the 2012 Shooting, Assault of Texas Lesbian Couple

Kristene Chapa Mollie Olgin

    In 2012, two teenaged lesbians were brutally attacked and left for dead in a Texas park. 19 year old Mollie Olgin died and her girlfriend Mary Kristene Chapa, then 18, survived with serious debilitating injuries. News of the arrest of the 27-year-old suspect brought to light the fact that one or both women […]

Love at First Sight

So, tomorrow is Ledcat’s birthday – she’ll be 51! We are celebrating with massages, facials and cake (of course.) This is also another birthday – my sweet cousin Theresa shared a birthday with Ledcat. She would have been 49 tomorrow, but she unexpectedly died four years ago. My phone just sent me a birthday reminder […]

Review: ‘Finding Vivian Maier: A Documentary’

Warning: this post contains spoilers about plot twists in this documentary. At the Roger Ebert movie review site, a film critic asks one of the moral questions at the heart of this film When does creative ability and the desire to share a true artist’s eye trump what has to be considered an invasion of […]

Life is Hard

 Benjamin Franklin said: “There are three things extremely hard: steel, a diamond, and to know one’s self.” Do you think you know yourself well? Well, technically Benjamin Franklin wrote this in 1750 book Poor Richard’s Almanac. I just completed an intake process for new mental health providers yesterday and one thing that struck me was how […]

Five Things People Say To Social Workers

social work

Today is World Social Work Day. I received my MSW after blood, sweat and tears in April of 2000. And since that day when someone asks me what I do, I have typically responded “I’m a social worker” rather than using my actual job title. I do this because I am proud to be part […]

I turned 12 and then 13 and then 16 and now I’m 43

12 ball

You’re 12 years old. It’s your birthday. Write for ten minutes on that memory. GO. I hate these questions because most of the time – I don’t remember. Like many survivors of neglect and trauma, I don’t remember. Or I do remember, but much in the way I recall the storyline from a book or […]

Neighborhood “Drama” and Facebook

Cat Perfection

I once had a crush on FourSquare – I thought it had potential to help nonprofit organizations and small businesses. So I’ve detailed in probably far too much painstaking a manner the experience of being cyberstalked. It is a terrible feeling. And most stalkers get quite excited when they get a reaction from their prey […]