Oh, I Cry Over Spilt Milk

Another day to combine prompts. This time:

Do you have a bad temper? How often do you lose your temper?

Look in the mirror. Does the person you see match the person you feel like on the inside? How much stock do you put in appearances?

I’ve been looking in the mirror for over a week now as part of the #365FeministSelfie project. It isn’t an ubiased view as I incorporate multiple filters – pick a shot, pose, take multiple versions, then often use a literal filter on Instagram. I frame the narrative of how I selfie myself, right? There are plenty of shots that are much better representations of how I feel on the inside, but the simple act of being willing to post one  a day shows that how I feel on the inside has changed dramatically in the past years.

So yes and no? Overall, I notice appearances, but tend to evaluate more by actions. Honestly, I tend to give disreputable and scruffy looking people the benefit of the doubt and assume fancy-schmancy people tricked out with accessories and just the right lipstick have something to hide. A reverse bias? I’m not sure that people who appear aesthetically pleasing should be considered to be “looking good” because good is not a direct correlation to amount of money (and time) able to invest in clothes, hair, makeup, grooming, etc.

Or the amount of time you can invest in a selfie, right?

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When I look in the mirror, I see a woman who is angry and sad about so many things. Does that make me someone with a temper? Sure. Is it bad? I think less so as I’ve been able to gaze in the mirror longer. Do I lose my temper? Yep and usually over stupid stuff.

Things that anger me

  • Poverty
  • Drunk Drivers
  • Discrimination
  • Nepotism
  • Child Abuse
  • Animal Abuse

Things that make me lose my temper (really they don’t *make* me but you know what I mean)

  • Spilt milk
  • Near misses due to someone being stupid or willfully ignorant
  • Parking cones used inappropriately
  • Not being able to find something to wear
  • Circling parking lots when I’m the passenger
  • Condescension

I’d post a photo of my “lost  my temper” mirror face, but it is hard to recreate. I suck in my cheeks with a deep breath, narrow my eyes, tilt my head and hold that pose for a few minutes while I ponder my next step. “Are you fucking kidding me?” is usually my next statement. In polite company, “That’s UN-believable.” Sometimes I vary it up with “This is fucking unbelievable.”

Then I usually fire off a text to Ledcat to share my outrage and ask for her tacit acknowledgement that I’m completely right. 🙂

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