I grew up being sexually groomed by my grandfather

Sexual violence with any minor child is abhorrent and too common. “There’s a difference between a 15 year old and a 5 year old” Megyn Kelly, defending Jeffrey Epstein. Content Note: sexual violence, child abuse, politics, church, incest Let me start by reminding everyone that sexual abuse of young children, ages 5 and 15, including […]

Update on Lawsuits, My Realistic Fears of Being Homeless, Need to Raise $625 Soon

Thank you for your donations. You have made it possible for me to get this far.  Scroll down for a current ask I have, but first I want to talk about the possibility of my being homeless. On Wednesday, we had another conciliation hearing. The outcome is that the cases go back to the Family […]

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight.

Today was rough. We had another conciliation hearing in the divorce/tort proceedings. There’s no common ground, I guess. So we go back to the Family Court judge. But our judge is leaving Family Court so we will be assigned a new judge who may be an experienced judge just new to us or an actual […]

Q&A with Councilperson Erika Strassburger about strengthening nondiscrimination protections on the local level

The two bills were motivated by similar realities at the federal level, where federal executive orders have weakened fair housing and other protections for various protected classes. City Councilor Erika Strassburger steered two pieces of legislation that addressed and bolstered nondiscrimination protections in the City. Protections based on sexual orientation were first added to the […]

Will the grandchildren of ICE Nazis make amends?

I watch (and share) a lot of videos that are focused on identifying ICE agents, documenting kidnappings, and lauding the creative, persistent resistance. Sometimes I wonder what I’d say if I was holding the bullhorn or recording with my phone. I’m not sure that the words of an individual have any impact or can prevent […]

The Right to Marry is not the Requirement to Marry

Why are nearly 50% of same sex couples still cohabitating without getting married? This post is part of my ongoing court cases around same sex divorce, civil rights, and trauma. I have three legal cases and one additional legal action sort of floating around involving my work to Protect Trans Kids. I still need help […]

Another (Quick) Update on the Appeal to Help With Housing Appraisal – We Need Just $112 in Donations

You can read the backstory here. Thanks to donations after the last update, our small goal is down to $112. Our next step is to arrange for a historic home appraisal. There are four points in time – purchase, date of domestic partnership, date of marriage, and date of separation. I’m genuinely curious about that […]

Update on Appeal to Help With Housing Appraisal – We Need Just $289 in Donations

Last week, I posted an update on court proceedings. In addition to the ongoing need for legal and living donations or perhaps within it, a sub-request, I need $750 for a historical house appraisal. Within 24 hours, you donated $461 – thank you. THANK YOU. That leaves $289.

The right to marry is not a requirement to marry

Over 100,000 same sex couples in the US agree. Starting in 2014, same sex couples were legally able to marry in Pennsylvania. Lots of people did. Not everyone did. When I share my story (domestic partnerships since 2006, married in 2021) – the first thing people say is “Why didn’t you get married right away?” […]

The Impact of Police Trauma on My Life

Here Come the Police Last night, a friend stopped by with some meals for me. I jumped in the car with her to avoid the torrent of rain. She was parked behind my house in an alley, but under a streetlight. We chatted about our days, caught up on assorted things. It was maybe 20 […]