Sourcing Winter Cat Shelter Whilst Reflecting on My Future

Only four days into NaBloPoMo and I’m scrambling to get a post up in the next 51 minutes. Democrats won every single election. I’m sure the analysis will feed news stories for days to come. While it is much needed good news, it still is like the bare minimum to navigate the terror in the […]

I Climbed the Ladder to the Kitchen, not Success

My therapist recently asked me to recount a childhood experience where I felt or knew that I had been abandoned. At some point in our childhood, my parents started taking off for little drives on my Dad’s off days. They would leave while we were still at school and come home when the spirit moved […]

Nostalgia and Trauma: How Cleaning My Room Reminds Me Why I Have So Much Clothing

This weekend, I had a lot of time and an empty house so I decided to tackle a few tasks for me – tasks that would make me feel more comfortable, more satisfied, more content I guess. Laundry was a big one. I have a lot of laundry packed in IKEA bags. I had off-season […]

How to help me with housing

After I wrote the blog post “Here’s the truth about housing after a divorce” I received two questions – “What are you going to do?” and “Why aren’t you mobilizing your followers?” I don’t know what I’m going to do. The post laid out the assorted options. I have to believe there is a way […]

Here’s the truth about housing after a divorce

As you know I’m in the middle of a divorce. Contentious, one might say. It has been very rough. So many legal questions. We have been together since 2003, lived together since 2005, and domestic partners since 2006. We married in 2021. So its a 2.5 year marriage and a 16 year partnership, a 18.5 […]

How Responding to a Crowdfund Shows You Understand the Assignment

My friend Melissa set up a crowdfund for my legal and living expenses in September 2023. It is still active and still needed. I’ve posted 48 updates, about 2x month, to keep donors and supporters informed on the legal issues, the living issues, and other items. This is the 48th update pasted below. I work […]

20 Years Ago Today This House Became My Home

Settle down, it’ll all be clearThe trouble it might drag you downIf you get lost, you can always be found 20 years ago this very day, we loaded up the UHaul at my home in West Mifflin, drove to Manchester where we unloaded for what I thought would be forever. Friends and family had helped […]

My Disabled Friend Has a Section 8 Voucher, But Cannot Find a Landlord

A friend of mine needs help with housing. D is 58 years old and disabled. He is the primary caretaker for his 59 year old disabled brother. They have a Section 8 voucher from Allegheny County for a 2 bedroom apartment. D has been searching for almost a year for a landlord who will accept their […]

Ten Holiday Traditions on My List for 2024

I expect the winter holidays will be a little challenging. Not as raw as last year, perhaps more insistent on looking forward. So I made a list of traditions, new and old, and already invited friends to join me. I have no one with whom I’ll exchange gifts. Of course I’ll gift to my nephews, […]

The Ultimate Lesbian Dishwasher Questionnaire

Here’s a fun exercise about one of the most controversial household issues of the modern era – loading the dishwasher. I created 10 questions plus three bonus questions. Read on. Bonus The funny thing about quizzes like this is that there is no way to score it. There’s no astrological match, no ‘type of TV […]