How to Request Toys For Tots in Western Pennsylvania 2025

This is our annual (15 years)) round-up of Toys for Tots programs in Western Pennsylvania for 2025. I’ve done my best to sort through the available information and provide you what you may need to know. PLEASE click through to the applicable link to double check the details. I will update as information becomes available. […]

Happy birthday to me. Next week, I’ll turn 55.

Content Notes: childhood sexual violence, grooming, birthdays, anxiety, cats I have birthday issues. Not a real surprise to long-time readers. Or my friends. Or anyone who knows me. I used to think it was simple anxiety. But through my trauma processing work and therapy in general, I’ve sort of had a breakthrough. Birthdays are about […]

Another (Quick) Update on the Appeal to Help With Housing Appraisal – We Need Just $112 in Donations

You can read the backstory here. Thanks to donations after the last update, our small goal is down to $112. Our next step is to arrange for a historic home appraisal. There are four points in time – purchase, date of domestic partnership, date of marriage, and date of separation. I’m genuinely curious about that […]

Update on Appeal to Help With Housing Appraisal – We Need Just $289 in Donations

Last week, I posted an update on court proceedings. In addition to the ongoing need for legal and living donations or perhaps within it, a sub-request, I need $750 for a historical house appraisal. Within 24 hours, you donated $461 – thank you. THANK YOU. That leaves $289.

The right to marry is not a requirement to marry

Over 100,000 same sex couples in the US agree. Starting in 2014, same sex couples were legally able to marry in Pennsylvania. Lots of people did. Not everyone did. When I share my story (domestic partnerships since 2006, married in 2021) – the first thing people say is “Why didn’t you get married right away?” […]

I need $750 to pay for a historic house appraisal and I need your help to raise it.

I need $750 to pay for historic house appraisal. I need your help to raise it. Today, our lawyers met with the divorce hearing master to review facts.  One thing to note is that we filed a tort for damages last month in Civil Court and it has been moved to Family Court and combined […]

Nostalgia and Trauma: How Cleaning My Room Reminds Me Why I Have So Much Clothing

This weekend, I had a lot of time and an empty house so I decided to tackle a few tasks for me – tasks that would make me feel more comfortable, more satisfied, more content I guess. Laundry was a big one. I have a lot of laundry packed in IKEA bags. I had off-season […]

Two years ago, I launched a GoFundMe for legal/living expenses. More than 300 of you have responded so far.

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Happy Two Year Crowdiversary. What an awkward way to acknowledge an awkward situation.

On this date in 2023, my friends Melissa and Diane helped me to get this crowdfund started It was a Saturday morning after an anxious night. I had called RESOLVE to ask for their assistance getting my prescription medications from my home – I was still homeless, staying with friends at that point. So I […]

Sitting cross-legged on the floor 25 or 6 to 4

I stayed up too late last night and woke up late, the sort of late start that makes your crotchety and out of sorts for hours until you shake yourself back. I was late enough to have to reschedule an appointment with a very understanding medical provider. Coffee helped. It is the time of year […]