Nostalgia and Trauma: How Cleaning My Room Reminds Me Why I Have So Much Clothing

This weekend, I had a lot of time and an empty house so I decided to tackle a few tasks for me – tasks that would make me feel more comfortable, more satisfied, more content I guess. Laundry was a big one. I have a lot of laundry packed in IKEA bags. I had off-season […]

Two years ago, I launched a GoFundMe for legal/living expenses. More than 300 of you have responded so far.

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Happy Two Year Crowdiversary. What an awkward way to acknowledge an awkward situation.

On this date in 2023, my friends Melissa and Diane helped me to get this crowdfund started It was a Saturday morning after an anxious night. I had called RESOLVE to ask for their assistance getting my prescription medications from my home – I was still homeless, staying with friends at that point. So I […]

Sitting cross-legged on the floor 25 or 6 to 4

I stayed up too late last night and woke up late, the sort of late start that makes your crotchety and out of sorts for hours until you shake yourself back. I was late enough to have to reschedule an appointment with a very understanding medical provider. Coffee helped. It is the time of year […]

“Five Nights at Freddy’s Is this where you want to be?

I’m on my own for the next five days – just me and the cats. And the groundhogs. Raccoons. Possum.  A few noisy neighbors. Today, I had therapy, followed by a turkey sandwich piled high with lettuce. When I got up to get a napkin, Coco – the turkey obsessed demon – dragged it onto […]

Has My Tunnel Vision About Blogging All Of These Years Contributed To The Erosion Of My Relationship and Marriage?

This blog isn’t exactly a diary or journal. I do share a lot of my life, at least the interesting parts. At the very least, the interesting to me parts. It is 10:32 on a Saturday night in September. Earlier today, I wrestled some cat food bags and did the dishes. Then I had a […]

Here’s the Truth About Holidays After a Divorce

It is a crisp autumish Sunday afternoon this August 31 in the year 2025. Tomorrow is Labor Day. I did have plans for a project that fell through, so I am left to my own devices. Chores, laundry, nap. In the before-times, three day holiday weekends usually included housework, a project, and – this is […]

How to cope with relationship trauma and recovery

It feels important to acknowledge this day, this anniversary of a terrible series of events two years ago that upended my life forever. You can read the details here. The details matter, of course, but at the same time – it is today that matters. My due process rights were violated. I was homeless for […]

The Real Reason I’ve Been Blogging for 20 Years

Aun Nppl;et from niblings circa 2019

If you had asked me last year or even last week to specify my blog audience, I would have said “the LGBTQ community” or “white cisgender people who need to read this” or some such statement. Those things are true, but they are not quite complete. I am writing this blog for my six niblings […]

Brian Wilson, Love, Mercy, and What God Only Knows

“I may not always love you” As I move through the transformation of a divorce, I am humbled that I can look back at the past 20+ years and find those exquisite aching moments of happiness, joy, and beauty. Music is a language my spouse shared with me. She helped me level up from pop […]