What ‘after the holidays’ really means

Last year was a nice holiday season for me – I felt hopeful, comforted, and valued. This year? Not so much. I thought the holiday in tandem with my blog’s 20th anniversary would create lots to celebrate. I was wrong. A 20 year milestone is not resonating with local media outlets that typically jump for […]

If you smile through your fear and sorrow

I went to the dentist last week, abuzz with anxiety. This weirdly ended up okay because I just had one cavity and everything else was fixable. Except one bad tooth that has to be uninstalled. Second chances are always important. The dental cleaning weakened the bad tooth and it really hurt. I called an oral […]

Upbeat crowdfund update: Hey, Sue got a tattoo and 100,000 followers on Instagram

Hello friends! This will be (I hope) an upbeat update. I’ll post another data driven one tomorrow. My blog turns 20 on December 29, 2025. I am proud of that milestone. Most blogs endure 2-3 years. To commemorate it, I had the blog logo tattooed on my forearm this past Friday night. See photo. I […]

Remember my college internship with then-Congressman Rick Santorum in 1991?

Rick Santorum Photo

It was around this time of that year when the photo below was taken. End of winter term. Terrified about what came next. Certain that working in Congress was not for me. 34 years ago. I had no idea how much my degree in political science and that internship would shape this 20 year labor […]

Do you have an extra Christmas tree for me?

Well, sparkle season is here and I’m still stuck in this in-between stage as my lawsuits play out. I share my home with someone I used to well, know. Not any longer. I miss the most mundane things – watching the news together, trying new restaurants, making waffles, eating her lemon chicken recipe. It hurts […]

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight.

Today was rough. We had another conciliation hearing in the divorce/tort proceedings. There’s no common ground, I guess. So we go back to the Family Court judge. But our judge is leaving Family Court so we will be assigned a new judge who may be an experienced judge just new to us or an actual […]

Long lost photos bring unexpected joy to my 55th birthday

Yesterday, an innocuous brown box arrived at the house. There was no name, so I opened it figuring it was a 50% chance of being mine. I was right. Inside I found a package from my brother – a very large handful of photos he had found when he was packing to move. I was […]

This is My Birthday Week – 55 Here I Am!

Wednesday, October 22, 2025 is my 55th birthday. Woo hoo. Manifesting My Destiny My annual plan is to order myself a small cake from the Giant Eagle bakery (even though I’m very disappointed with their customer service right now – they make great cake.) Then I load up my all time favorite movie ‘When Harry […]

Two years ago, I launched a GoFundMe for legal/living expenses. More than 300 of you have responded so far.

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How to cope with relationship trauma and recovery

It feels important to acknowledge this day, this anniversary of a terrible series of events two years ago that upended my life forever. You can read the details here. The details matter, of course, but at the same time – it is today that matters. My due process rights were violated. I was homeless for […]