I grew up being sexually groomed by my grandfather

Sexual violence with any minor child is abhorrent and too common. “There’s a difference between a 15 year old and a 5 year old” Megyn Kelly, defending Jeffrey Epstein. Content Note: sexual violence, child abuse, politics, church, incest Let me start by reminding everyone that sexual abuse of young children, ages 5 and 15, including […]

Update on Lawsuits, My Realistic Fears of Being Homeless, Need to Raise $625 Soon

Thank you for your donations. You have made it possible for me to get this far.  Scroll down for a current ask I have, but first I want to talk about the possibility of my being homeless. On Wednesday, we had another conciliation hearing. The outcome is that the cases go back to the Family […]

On this Trans Day of Remembrance: Unidentified Trans/Gender Nonconforming Individuals 2025

Some cases came to light during this past year, but took place in the past. Here are six neighbors whose stories became to known to us in 2025. Their identities are unknown. Unidentified white female, estimated between 30-45 years, found April 19, 2001 in Chicago Illinois. The listing describes her as a transsexual male but […]

Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight.

Today was rough. We had another conciliation hearing in the divorce/tort proceedings. There’s no common ground, I guess. So we go back to the Family Court judge. But our judge is leaving Family Court so we will be assigned a new judge who may be an experienced judge just new to us or an actual […]

Our Official Trans Day of Remembrance Post for 2025

As you may know, I’ve been creating blog posts memorializing trans, nonbinary, and gender nonconforming victims of violent death since 2013. I use a calendar year rather than the Trans Day of Remembrance year. A TDoR memorial includes a reading of the names of those who died from October 1 of the former year to […]

Honoring Trans and Gender Nonconforming Individuals Whose Cases are Unresolved 2025

Some cases came to light during this past year, but took place in the past. Here are four neigbors whose stories became to known to us in 2025. They have been identified, but the investigations have not concluded. There are many others, some we’ve covered and some we have not. I urge you to follow […]

Adding Six Trans Neighbors to Our Memorial List 2024/2025

Some of these deaths only came to light recently. I did not want anyone to be overlooked around the Trans Day of Remembrance, so I created a compilation post. Please visit Remembering Our Dead for more robust information. Nonbinary and queer artist of Dominican descent was killed in Seattle in December 2024 Jonny Adamow was […]

My personal Facebook page has been shadow banned for over two years

For a long time now, I’ve noticed that engagement on my personal Facebook page has been dramatically lower than in previous years. No one comments, likes, or shares. People tell me all of the time that they don’t see my content (and when I point out that they could seek it out, they don’t.) What […]

People let me down so I made a list

I’m trying hard to blog daily for NaBloPoMo. It has been a dark week. Other people let me down, I let myself down. My post for today is a list of what I accomplished today. As my reward for not giving into despair, multiple cats came to visit me tonight in my room. That makes […]

Q&A with Councilperson Erika Strassburger about strengthening nondiscrimination protections on the local level

The two bills were motivated by similar realities at the federal level, where federal executive orders have weakened fair housing and other protections for various protected classes. City Councilor Erika Strassburger steered two pieces of legislation that addressed and bolstered nondiscrimination protections in the City. Protections based on sexual orientation were first added to the […]