“Why should anyone feel secure about the right to marry when this Court has proven it doesn’t believe in precedent?”

“Why should anyone feel secure about the right to marry,” he asked, “when this Court has proven it doesn’t believe in precedent?” Jim Obergefell to The Advocate magazine. Today, Friday, the Supreme Court Justices will meet behind closed doors to determine if they will hear a case that includes a challenge to the previous ruling […]

The Right to Marry is not the Requirement to Marry

Why are nearly 50% of same sex couples still cohabitating without getting married? This post is part of my ongoing court cases around same sex divorce, civil rights, and trauma. I have three legal cases and one additional legal action sort of floating around involving my work to Protect Trans Kids. I still need help […]

The right to marry is not a requirement to marry

Over 100,000 same sex couples in the US agree. Starting in 2014, same sex couples were legally able to marry in Pennsylvania. Lots of people did. Not everyone did. When I share my story (domestic partnerships since 2006, married in 2021) – the first thing people say is “Why didn’t you get married right away?” […]

Will the Supreme Court Overturn Marriage Equality? What Does That Mean for Domestic Partnerships?

Marriage equality is going to fall. Marriage equality is going to fall. Soon, much sooner than we expected. Potentially very soon. I’ve been saying this all along and pleading with everyone to strengthen functional marriage equivalents (domestic partnerships, civil unions, etc) especially in states like Pennsylvania. PA has a ‘trigger law’ –  a Defense of […]

Yesterday, My Friend Created a Venmo to Support My Legal Fund

My friend has long stayed away from online currency accounts. The few times I needed to send $$ to her, I sent it to her son’s PayPal. So I was quite surprised to get her note that she had successfully set up a Venmo account and sent me $20. Sure enough, there it was with […]

I Still Have To Take Care of Myself Right Now

NaBloPoMo

I’m not fine, of course. But I’m slowly coping with this new but perhaps inevitable reality. All the things people say right, speaking past each other or to themselves. All of those things mean everything because we are alive, we are still saying things, we are still here. Marriage, single, partnered. Here we are. NaBloPoMo. […]

The Pennsylvania House Passed a Bill Clarifying Marriage Equality a Decade After SCOTUS Ruling, Now Onto the Senate

For years, I have ranted about several facts. Two of them are 1) Pennsylvania legislators have never successfully passed any LGBTQ affirming legislation and 2) they haven’t cleaned up their mess around anti-LGBTQ actions. One such mess is closer than ever to being cleared. The Pennsylvania House of Representatives has approved legislation to remove the […]

Crowded Fundraising Is My New Normal

My love/hate relationship with crowdfunding continues. In addition to supporting my blogging, I’m relying on donations to manage legal costs. Technically, I’m involved in three legal battles. First was the defamation case around the Protect Trans Kids project. Then came family court sorting out the ramifications of all that’s happened. Perhaps of most interest is […]

US Senate to Vote on Respect for Marriage Act – Call Today

lesbian wedding

Today, the United States Senate may hold a procedural vote to forward the process of passing the ‘Respect for Marriage Act’ – federal recognition of marriage equality. The Respect for Marriage Act, abbreviated as RFMA (H.R. 8404, S. 4556), is a bill in the United States Congress to repeal the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) and require the U.S. federal government to recognize the validity […]

Baby, Don’t You Dare Sleep While I Drive

Missed exits

This morning after I dropped my wife at her office, I came home and dragged out the snowshovel with a beatup broom to the front street. One of the trash bags with our cat litter had broken open and the trash folx just left it there in the middle of the street. The edges of […]