Wednesday, December 29
by Sue on Wed 29 Dec 2010 06:37 AM EST
I love that you can get a little insight from Rob on his art.
by Sue on Wed 29 Dec 2010 06:31 AM EST
I've been mulling over this post for quite a few weeks. I say mulling when I really mean typing, grumbling, deleting and wailing my lack of inspiration. I kept asking myself how relevant local LGBTQ blogging was, especially from a woman's point of view.
Then Ledcat said "why did you start blogging?" Voila! Let's take a look at my very first blog post (aside from a picture of the dearly departed Miss Mona).
I was sort of delighted to read this. Casey won, as you know. However, we've lost the Specter seat to Pat Toomey, so it appears we head into year number six with pretty much the same cast of characters. The City is in no better shape and our Administration has been ineffective <cough> at leading us out of disarray. Or leading, period.
And we have the lovely City Councilor, Bruce Kraus, Pittsburgh's first openly gay elected official who is up for reelection in 2011. That race will shine a light on Pittsburgh's dirty homophobic underside. It will be the election of the year for Pittsburgh's LGBTQ community. The lesbians support Bruce and not because he's gay.
But let's save that for 2011.
Back to my original question. How relevant is local LGBTQ blogging, especially when driven by a lesbian? Well, it would be cumbersome to recount every major issue we've covered or brought to light, but we have provided coverage where the MSM feared to go and the coverage generated talk, sometimes on the radio and sometimes on other blogs. So word got out, albeit indirectly. I think consistently highlighting and demanding attention to LGBTQ issues has impacted the local MSM ... we are on several Pittsburgh Post-Gazette blogrolls and I get more than a few media calls to offer perspective.
Yes, I fill a LGBTQ media void and that has created opportunities for me to bring LGBTQ issues and a lesbian perspective on all sorts of issues into the public square. I also communicate with national bloggers which gives me a chance to put Pittsburgh in the national spotlight. However, it also gives me a chance to inform local folks what's going on the queer community around the nation. The repeal of DADT was high profile, but you may not have known about the election of the first lesbian of color in a state thousands of miles away and what that means for Pittsburgh.
I have my detractors, but I think that's a sign I'm doing the job I set out to do -- shining a light on our community for good and for bad.
I don't profess to be the voice of queer Pittsburgh, but I certainly claim my right to be heard.
So keep bringing it on ...
Tuesday, December 28
by Sue on Tue 28 Dec 2010 09:54 AM EST
I spent more than six weeks raising donations of holiday gifts for vulnerable people. Our goal was to provide a gift for hundreds of people. I had to do this around my primary job duties so I was up at 5 AM, on the computer all evening long and tweeting during any spare minute. So many people helped, but there was just so much I had to on my own time.
As the project drew to a close, I found myself feeling sad and a little empty. I didn't shop for any gifts to give. I didn't decorate. I ate, slept, exercised and did all the important self-care, but putting up a tree just didn't make the list. I also lived "out loud" during all that time, cajoling people to donate, tweeting about events, sharing every moment to help people understand why it mattered. As Christmas Day drew near, I guess my sadness was palpable. I kept telling myself that all the good we accomplished should be enough, but I also realized how much personal joy I sacrificed.
Let me be clear, it was worth it because I had a warm home, a Ledcat and plenty of food. Feeling sad and lonely is not reserved for those who go without, but I am very aware of my good fortune. I have no reason to complain, simply to set the stage for my Christmas gift. Hopefully, next year there will be more hands to help and I am confident that will happen.
On Christmas Eve, my friend Kerry called me to say someone had wanted to drop off a gift for me at his shop and would I come down. He didn't know them. I was skeptical, assuming it was another gift for the holiday drive and thinking I would just get it after Christmas. He insisted it was for me. They had noticed my sadness on Twitter and wanted to do something for me. I honestly couldn't believe that so I said I would get it eventually.
Actually, to be honest, I told him to give it to someone in need because I didn't think I needed a Christmas gift as I had just collected more than 500 of them. He laughed at me and said it would be wating for me.
I didn't go get it. Monday, we took a walk around the Northside and stopped at the shop, obstensibly to visit Kerry but really to use the bathroom. When I came back, an envelope was sitting at my place. Then I remembered.
I opened it and found the following note:
Now I'm a little embarrassed to share this and I don't want to rhapsodize about holiday miracles or any such thing. But the gift was very generous and something I really liked and had a profound impact on me.
I believe when Randy Newman wrote the song lyric I quoted above, he captured the sense of being alienated so poetically. I had just experienced a massive flow of human kindness after I had been "showing them the way" to help. But, apparently, I kept stepping out of the way of the flow and into the shadows to avoid this being about me.
I didn't mean to share my sadness or any negative feelings during the holiday seasons, but a little part of me is really glad that someone heard me.
I want to thank my new friends for the lovely gift, but for something more precious. I now know how the people who received gifts from my project feel. I am very humbled by this whole experience and will carry that gift forward.
Monday, December 27
by Sue on Mon 27 Dec 2010 08:35 AM EST
I dialogued with Sue Frietsche of the Women's Law Project about the Metcalfe memo on "Marriage Amendment" 2011. Her take on it is cause for serious thought ...
It's more radical than alternative versions because of the provision prohibitingrecognition of any "identical or substantially equivalent" legal union. So whatis a substantially equivalent legal union? Would it prohibit domestic partnershipbenefits, second-parent adoptions, joint checking accounts, reciprocal powers ofattorney, or what? Because it's a proposed constitutional amendment, it speaksin broad generalities, not the specifics of a statute or regulation. This versionfailed last time because no one had any idea how it would affect all kinds ofPennsylvanians: would it harm heterosexual unmarried couples who had someequivalent legal structures in place to protect their interests short of marriage?
This is going to require a serious education component to shake folks out of their complacency about adoptions and POA's. I'm sure most people would be stunned to learn that an amendment that seems to be about "gay marriage" could impact the Power of Attorney documents for unmarried heterosexual couples. Advocates have to find a way to connect with people who aren't at the table but have a vested interest in these issues.
That message has to resonate as loudly as Senator "Gays Are Allowed to Exist" Eichelberger's infamous comments from last session.
There are slews of LGBTQ adoptive parents and every couple has a second parent adoption. That's hundreds of Allegheny County voters to be mobilized. I'm not 100% sure of the nuances of second parent adoption for heterosexual couples, but the POA issue could be devastating. People spend thousands getting those documents prepared along with other domestic partnership paperwork. What about people traveling through Pennsylvania? What if a LGBTQ couple with a child are involved in a car accident and the primary adoptive parent passes away? Would the Commonwealth be able to deem the second parent adoption null and void under the federal DOMA statute?
I guess the point is, as Sue points out, that we just don't know.
We do know that there are a lot of things to be addressed, things even Dems and Repubs can agree upon so it might be better to vest energy in those topics.
We also know that time is on our side. We have to fend off this amendment (year after year after year), but equality is on the horizon.
Saturday, December 25
by Sue on Sat 25 Dec 2010 09:40 AM EST
Hmm ... I missed this yesterday in the Post-Gazette.
Frankel's optimism stems from the long-term view (useful in politics, eh) that our cultural view toward LGBTQ people, families and issues has shifted. Not IS. Not WILL. It has shifted and the polling data shows that. See my little riend's pronouncement that Ledcat and I cannot marry "stupid" She'll be voting in four Presidential cycles. That my friends is the long-term view.
The piece goes on to explore how state level inaction has generated much hubbub at the local level. 18 locals. It has also fed into the hatefest such as in Lancaster which disbanded the Human Relations Commission to save money. Really? I'm sure the African-American residents feel real good that their experiences with housing discrimination got axed to save money. Nice.
I can't resist posting this quote.
Umm. I think there was a time when "certain choices" like owning people was Biblically sanctioned, not evil. What would Mr. Wenger have argued if that point were brought up? Is it the "calling" of choices discrimination that make them evil because that sounds a lot like moral relativism, not so much grounded in moral certainties. He uses the term CHOICE four times in this quote which must simply be to downplay that people don't HATE gays, they just choose not to hire them. It is a lifestyle choice not to associate with gay people, but it is just a matter of housing patterns that mean no black people live in your cul-de-sac. Hmmm.
It hasn't taken long for the repeal of Don't Ask, Don't Tell to galvanize advocates and increase pressure (probably on both ends to be fair)
I wonder if Tom Corbett will keep Stephen Glassman as chair? That will be telling.
I'm glad the discussion isn't around marriage. We have to use building blocks. We need to look inward at Western PA and focus on elections as well as hold our current electeds to some standard of doing something. It is not 2009. We need to move on and see something happening.
I'm going to go watch some lady slather honey on a ham.
Friday, December 24
by Sue on Fri 24 Dec 2010 09:05 PM EST
It has been a long month. I could go on and on with the dramas, both large and small that have pervaded Lesbian Central. Let's just say the highlight of the week was losing (and finding) my cell phone at the Waterfront and losing (and finding) our chihuaha in our back alley.
Amidst the intensity and up and downs and blog posts and all that, one thing has been sad ... I lost a friend. It matters not who or how, but simply that it is what it is. Losing a friendship is a weird combination of heartwrench and zen. Your mind is filled with a thousand little moments you want to share and another thousand moments remember that you can't or you won't or you just shouldn't. You prepare yourself for the inevitable real life contact and feel confident that you can muster up the courtesy and human decency to be amicable, but you realize that you just aren't quite sure what the other person has in mind. A thought that would not have crossed your mind before the friendship ended.
Faith, I guess is a casualty of being let down when you are most vulnerable.
On a related note, my faith in another friend has grown in leaps and bounds because of unexpected rallying to my side when she was let down and I tried to help. It isn't nearly the same kind of friendship, but it certainly does give oomph to the door closes/window opens way of looking at the world. I don't think I buy it, but it is nice to have a little bounce.
I expect the worst and foolishly still hope for a gesture of kindness. A gesture to show that I'm not cast aside like a wad of wrapping paper ripped from a shiny new toy. But it certainly happens. I don't stack up so well against a Red Rider Rifle (or whatever it is called) or a gift card. Do people wrap gift cards or is that just a lesbian thing?
I'll think of my former friend tomorrow. I'll raise my glass to their holiday which I'm sure will be joyful. Then I'll just not think about it again. Or I'll try.
Maybe I should have saved this post for New Year's Eve?
Well, Merry Christmas, to my lost friend. I genuinely hope all your wishes come true.
by Sue on Fri 24 Dec 2010 08:39 AM EST
Buried not on the front page comes news that Allegheny County Councilwoman Joan Cleary has resigned her seat with no explanation. Her replacement will be selected by the Dems on the Council and will include someone from Baldwin, Brentwood, Castle Shannon, Clairton, Jefferson Hills, Pleasant Hills, South Park, West Elizabeth, and Whitehall.
Cleary was chair of the Council committee on health and human services so it is particularly of interest to this social worker whom they select to fill her seat.
So what does it mean for the LGBTQ community?
First, Cleary was on board the Allegheny County Anti-Discrimination/HRC Ordinance from the get go. Rich Fitzgerald personally told me that fact. Coming from a somewhat conservative swath of the region, it speaks volumes of her commitment to fairness. It most likely speaks to the lessons she's learned as a nurse. I'd like to think Ms. Cleary thought Allegheny County employees deserved health insurance for their families, even if they were gay, but I have no confirmation of that wishfu thinking. What matters is who doesn't. And ...pow ...wait for the smack downs on that little zinger. (I just can't let it go while people supporting Obamacare deny Onoratocare -- hey, I sort of like that).
Her role on health and human services is critical. As a practicioner, she brough invaluable insight from the trenches. Whether she worked in cosmetic surgery or on the streets, she surely experienced the best and worst of our health care system. I can't imagine mastering the County's vast Departments of Health and Human Service as a PT councilor on top of the day to day work. We are fortunate with a lot of resources and programs, but it is important to have a watchdog.
I've had the privilege of working in the health, housing child welfare, mental health and mental retardation fields during my career. I've worked with people living in poverty through all of it. I want someone experienced, smart and committed to equality in this seat.
I don't want to read this next year (Cleary voted against this -- she probably read it).
Thursday, December 23
by Sue on Thu 23 Dec 2010 03:10 PM EST
IMHO, Pennsylvania is going to have to grapple with the grassroots v Gay, Inc issues pretty damn quickly to muster the forces on this one. I clearly do not support this legislation, but neither do I support a gay agenda driven by insider monied gay men and I don't think I should have to choose. Prepare for an ugly, ugly spring as the community wrestles with the meaning of all that went into the repeal of DADT and the fallout for LGBT organizing. While we must rally, we must also have our eyes wide open that our own best interests may lay in our grassroots work, not just the work of Gay, Inc.
by Sue on Thu 23 Dec 2010 02:59 PM EST
Like roaches crawling out of the woodwork, social conservative Republicans are back to defend marriage against the ever-looming threat of homosexuality. See this memo from PA Representative (and would be Lt. Governor) Darryl Metcalfe whose neck of crazy-town includes Western PA. Seriously, this is a problem
Looks like we'll have another Blog for Equality Pittsburgh this year. Sigh. I had hoped our destruction of the military would be a distraction, but there's no stopping the vigilant defenders of sactity and all that ...
by Sue on Thu 23 Dec 2010 09:35 AM EST
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