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LGBTQ&A: Joe Wos is Putting the A(lly) in Superman

An occasional series where we pose some questions to local LGBTQ folks (and Allies) to learn more about their personal experiences with LGBTQ culture. Click here for a complete list of all LGBTQ&A profiles.

I met Joe when we were both sharing stories about “saving the earth” at the Bricolage Theater in 2010. Then he gave me a superhero cape and the deal was sealed. Joe is a terrific ally because not only does he *get* various issues – he actively seeks ways to build bridges and – dare I say – alliances with the LGBTQ community. The Toonseum is an amazing resource for Pittsburgh and a welcoming place for LGBTQ families.

Name Joe Wos JoeWos

Affiliation: Executive Director and founder of the ToonSeum

Tell us about the very first LGBTQ person you met and what that meant for you. I grew up in the 1970′s in the steel town of Braddock, in an era where the words “gay, fag, and homo” were thrown around as pretty much the harshest insult you can throw at someone. So if there were any gay people in that community or certainly in my school they kept it very very well hid. It wasn’t until 9th grade when I met someone who was openly gay. His name was Brandon, he was African American and flamboyant and hilarious! He also got his ass kicked about every week. I didn’t know what he was going through as a gay african american, but I certainly knew what it was like to be different, outcast and bullied. So we invited him to sit at the “Geek and nerd” lunch table with us. It was the first time I realized the cross over between geek and gay culture. He could drop a pop reference with the very best of us! We joked and teased him about his sexuality, he joked and teased us about being a bunch of nerds and geeks, but it was different. That joking and teasing wasnt the same as what was being leveled by the other kids. It was playful in a way it allowed us to all open up and accept who we were through humor.

The funniest moment was when he came out to us. Not about being gay, we knew that. Everyone at our table was a Star Wars fan, he came out as a Trekkie. It didn’t matter he was still one of us! (and frankly I am a bit of Trekkie too, I just kept it quiet!)

How do you stay informed on LGBTQ issues? The internet is how I stay informed on all issues.

What is the most important issue facing the LGBTQ community today? I honestly think the most important issue is going to be adjusting to a broader main stream acceptance. As the public begins to accept the LGBTQ community more broadly that community is going to have to adjust to no longer being “the fringe”. I think it will come as a bit of a shock when someone says they are gay, and the person responds “so what? I’m left handed. What’s the big deal?”  

Brad & George Takei support the Toonseum. This event was supported by Gay for Good Pgh

Brad & George Takei support the Toonseum. This event was supported by Gay for Good Pgh

When the goal is equality it become tougher to still maintain and celebrate differences with pride. It also makes it much more difficult to fight for additional rights when there are those still ignorant who will say “We GAVE you gay marriage! Now what do you want??!”

The fight after perceived equality will be much greater than the fight now.

If you could wave a magic wand and change one thing in Pittsburgh’s LGBTQ community, what would it be? That Pridefest would be have more public educational content. Right now it’s just a big gay frat party. Which is a great celebration. But where is the content? Where are the panel discussion on the issues? It has to be about more than lets go march and then get drunk! I would love to see a lot more education with the celebration.

Past or present, favorite LGBTQ character in television, film or literature? Paul Lynde always made me laugh. My parents too. He would only wink at his sexuality but it pervaded his wit and timing.

Also vanity smurf! lol

What is one simple thing a reader can do to support the LGBTQ community? I think it a simple thing add an “A” onto the end of LGBTQ. And that A should stand for Allies. There are those of us who stand with you as friends and family.

Not long ago I was leaving a bar on Liberty Avenue close to the ToonSeum. A few days later someone came up to me concerned and said “Joe, I saw you leaving that gay bar on Liberty… Are you gay?” I looked at him and said “You seem concerned that it was a “Gay” bar. it was a bar maybe I am just an alcoholic”. and I walked away.

You can follow Joe via Twitter @Toonseum and like the Facebook Page.

 

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LGBTQ&A: Dan Gilman, Candidate and Ally

An occasional series where we pose some questions to local LGBTQ folks (and Allies) to learn more about their personal experiences with LGBTQ culture. Click here for a complete list of all LGBTQ&A profiles.

Dan Gilman has been involved with City Council for 8 years as a staff person and is now running his own campaign to serve as a member of Council. I’ve known Dan for quite awhile – he’s often been the person I engaged to work on advocacy or other issues.  Dan is 30 and it is fascinating to note the incredible culture difference in his generation – being around LGBTQ people was something he *didn’t* know.  Gilman

Tell us about the very first LGBTQ person you met and what that meant for you. GROWING UP IN NORTHERN CALIFORNIA IN THE 1980s, I WAS RAISED IN AN ENVIRONMENT THAT WAS VERY ACCEPTING AND OPEN TO THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY. I CANNOT REMEMBER THE FIRST LGBTQ PERSON I MET BECAUSE IT WAS SUCH AN ACCEPTED PART OF MY LIFE FROM AN EARLY AGE.

How do you stay informed on LGBTQ issues? THROUGH MY WORK AS CHIEF OF STAFF TO COUNCILMAN PEDUTO I HAVE BEEN VERY INVOLVED WITH MANY LOCAL ORGANIZATIONS INCLUDING STONEWALL, GERTRUDE STEIN, PATF, AND PERSAD. FURTHERMORE, WITH SO MANY PERSONAL FRIENDS IN THE COMMUNITY, I AM ABLE TO HEAR FIRSTHAND REGULARLY ABOUT THE ISSUES IN THE LGBTQ COMMUNITY.

What is the most important issue facing the LGBTQ community today? RECOGNITION THAT ALL RIGHTS GUARANTEED TO A HETEROSEXUAL COUPLE  SHOULD BE A RIGHT FOR ALL COUPLES. THESE ARE BASIC CIVIL RIGHTS.

If you could wave a magic wand and change one thing in Pittsburgh’s LGBTQ community, what would it be? REGISTER MORE PEOPLE TO VOTE

Past or present, favorite LGBTQ character in television, film or literature? MITCHELL ON MODERN FAMILY

What is one simple thing a reader can do to support the LGBTQ community? GET INVOLVED. WE CANNOT STAND ON THE SIDELINES AS WE FIGHT FOR EQUALITY AND CIVIL RIGHTS. YOU NEED TO ROLL UP YOUR SLEEVES AND GET INVOLVED.

You can follow Dan on Twitter @DanielGilman and via his campaign Facebook page.

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The Week in LGBTQ – April 14, 2013

A snippet of our most popular tweets from the previous week – follow us @PghLesbian24

Even if same-sex marriage is against your religion, we can’t ban every sin -Pittsburgh Post-Gazette http://bit.ly/YXnOVt via @pittsburghpg

This does not include former PA Governor Ed Rendell - Which Politicians Supported Gay Marriage and When? http://bit.ly/17jeb74 via @MotherJones

Here’s a mom we all want to have (or be): ’Accept’ and ‘Tolerate’ My Gay Kid? That’s Not Good Enough http://huff.to/10HwWwY via @HuffPostGay

An immensely well-shared story - Africa’s First Traditional Gay Wedding? Tshepo Cameron Modisane And Thoba Calvin Sithole Tie The … http://huff.to/17n7MHT via @HuffPostGay

Behind the Candelabra Trailer (Matt Damon – Michael Douglas ):

“DC Comics Introduces a New Transgender Character

Our friends at Mombian have an excellent parenting roundup post. “LGBT Parenting Roundup”   

This story has been huge this week – very timely: Missouri man arrested at hospital for refusing to leave gay partner | The Raw Story 

Excellent PA news - Trans Inclusive Bill Passes Through Philadelphia Council Committee : Keystone Student Voice

Pam Spaulding brought my attention to this immigration piece from Chris Geidner at BuzzFeed - http://www.buzzfeed.com/chrisgeidner/same-sex-couples-missing-from-immigration-debate-for-now

Last week was Meet Us On The Street: International Anti-Street Harassment Week 

Now this is how to do a #giveaway (Hint: local politics + local restaurants.)

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“Sodom and Gomorrah in Your Face” and Other Stupid Things Haters Say

We love letters to the editor and Pittsburgh has been unusually prolific of late.  Pittsburgh-Post-Gazette-Logo

Over at the Post-Gazette website you’ll find this dialogue unfolding, replete with LOTS of comments.

Daniel J. Robinson of West Deer goes to bat for the Bible trumping the Constitution. He also seems to have missed a year or so of civics class in high school AND have a direct connection to “the Creator.” He ends by warning heterosexual Pittsburghers that having LGBTQ neighbors is akin to “Sodom and Gomorrah in your face” which is a terrific (and hateful) twist on the classic insult of 9 year olds everywhere.

This is by far the best response -

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Jim Abraham of Squirrel Hill took up the challenge – “C’mon, buddy. Really?” And this led to a back and forth on various Biblical/Torah rules/laws/interpretations and the usual fodder for claiming something like “shrimp is okay, but not gay marriage” – in other words, nonsensical dipping into religious context. But even though Jim says he doesn’t have a dog in the horse over gay marriage – I think he has a dog in the horse over religious beliefs defining civil rights?

Then someone who actually does have some expertise on what “the Bible says” – Reverent Janet Edwards - proceeds to succinctly explain how that doesn’t impact what the Constitution says (or the US Government.)  And she sums it up in a manner that is very comforting to my family.

You should be so blessed, Mr. Robinson, to have a same-sex couple as your neighbor. I say this because that couple has made a life together without any of the privileges other couples receive with the marriage certificate. They have to work at it in ways we cannot imagine.

But the fact is there’s a good chance you actually have a gay couple in your neighborhood. I encourage you to get to know them. You’ll be blessed, I trust.

This led to a back and forth about the Biblical view on selling wine in a grocery store, claims that medical power of attorney is practically the same thing as marriage, and that AIDS was caused by free love. Oh, and someone mentioned a dog (of course.)

Really? Yes, and this is okay with me because the rational and the allied far outnumber the haters. The Post-Gazette just recently opened comments on LGBTQ posts so this is a good way to remind everyone that love does win the day. And reason and decency shall prevail.

Thank you to everyone who took time to weigh in on this matter. Now I’m going to visit the Trib website.

 

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