Tuesday, October 19
by Sue on Tue 19 Oct 2010 10:23 PM EDT
It does get better. You approach your 40th birthday and embrace the gifts of maturity. My partner and I are living the life, so to speak. We have good jobs where we can be ourselves for the most part. We have built a home together filled with a lot of real moments, including moments that have been sad and dark and devastating. But we have each other. Life is not perfect, but it is better. Our parents realized they loved us more than they believed their prejudices. They don't talk about us being gay, but they are part of our lives and it really is okay. And for those who don't ... you fill your life with others. You embrace your friends and appreciate the many ways they support and lift you up.
I'm a firm believer that sometimes you just need to close your eyes and believe it will get better. It always has, in some small incremental way. It isn't easy, painless or glamorous, but it is about believing in ourselves in some small way.
My favorite moment of each day is when I get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. I come back to bed and Ledcat is asleep. I always - ALWAYS - stop and think of how lucky I am to snuggle back into bed with someone who loves me with all of her heart and soul. That soothes me right back to sleep. It is the most precious moment of the day for me and I truly know that it will continue to get better.
The darkness is real, I know. But there is light and there is hope and there is so much love to surround each of us. Sometimes, you need to let that lift you up and carry you through. Until it gets better for you.
by Sue on Tue 19 Oct 2010 04:27 PM EDT
Step back, naysayers. It appears we have a race. According to poll data released today, Sestak LEADS the race, 46-45.
Interesting. Pennsylvania could really be a battleground this year and this data can only help Dan Onorato.
I'm mulling over the conclusions in my personal experiences. My enthusiasm gap feels a little less rigid, but I'll admit that the "bash 'em over the head for turning traitor" approach is leaving a sour taste in my mouth. I'm tired of people with privileges I don't have lecturing me about getting on board.
The LGBT community is certainly rallying around Sestak from what I've seen in local social media. It will be interesting to see how this plays our over the next few weeks.
Wednesday, October 13
by Sue on Wed 13 Oct 2010 09:48 PM EDT
Received this via email tonight ...
If you are Christian and have struggled with friends, family, or religious enthusiasts that quote scripture to disprove or reject your sexuality, you are invited to participate in this enlightening 8 week course at First United Methodist Church. We have been adamantly open to the gay community for decades. You are more than welcome.
WHAT TO SAY WHEN THEY START QUOTING SCRIPTURE?
CLAIMING THE PROMISE, an eight week Bible study
First United Methodist Church of Pittsburgh
First United Methodist Church of Pittsburgh invites you to an eight week Bible study exploring same gender love in relationship to Christian scripture. The course is open to all who are looking for words to respond to the seven familiar biblical texts or are struggling with what they have heard others say compared to what they know in their hearts.
Beginning Sunday, October 24 and ending December 19 (8 Weeks), Jeff Miller, Austin Hornyak, and Bob Wilson will facilitate a Sunday School Class (9:30-10:45). This class is appropriate for teens through seniors; for persons who have given significant consideration to this concern and for those who are just beginning to reflect on them.
This study will help you
? Identify assumptions about biblical authority and how to engage in biblical interpretation
? Examine alternate understanding of biblical references that people sometimes apply negatively
? Explore the place of those biblical references within a comprehensive understanding of the
Bible's liberating message of justice-love and freedom in Christ.
? Claim the promise of being God's heirs apparent by as welcoming, reconciling disciples of Christ.
If you have questions, please feel free to contact Robert Wilson, Pastor, First United Methodist Church at 412-681-4222 or a49always@ alum.bu.edu
First United Methodist Church is located at the corners of Baum Blvd. and Centre, Liberty, and Aiken Avenues between Shadyside, Bloomfield, and Friendship (next to the all night Wendy?s) 412-681-4222. wwwFirstUMCPittsburgh.org
Thursday, October 7
by Sue on Thu 07 Oct 2010 10:10 PM EDT
It is October 11, 2010.
How are you acknowledging or honoring this event?
I'm going to come out to someone. Not sure whom that will be. Social media won't count.
Stay tuned ...
by Sue on Thu 07 Oct 2010 09:15 PM EDT
Joe Sestak needs every one of his LGBT allies to stand with the campaign next Friday, October 8, to show the public what is really at stake. We will be gathering at 11am in the courtyard of the County Courthouse, 414 Grant St., to deliver a press statement on behalf of the Congressman. Representative Dan Frankel and Councilman Bruce Kraus will be on hand to speak for the campaign.Believe it or not, we have less than five weeks until we decide who our next U.S. Senator will be. The stakes are high; but, I am sure, that with your help, Pennsylvania will make the right decision. The key word being help. Now is the time for members of the LGBT community to get off the sidelines and get into the game. We all know that progress doesn?t just happen; we have to fight for it.
Joe has co-sponsored a number of bills directly affecting our community that include, but are not limited to, the following:
*Respect for Marriage Act to repeal DOMA
*Military Readiness Enhancement Act to end Don?t Ask, Don?t Tell
*Local Law Enforcement Hate Crimes Prevention Act
*Employment Nondiscrimination Act (ENDA)
*Family Medical Leave Act
With Pat Toomey as the next Senator, the LGBT community will not only fail to gain an ally, we will be up against strong opposition. Just look at his record. In 2004, Pat Toomey supported a Constitutional Amendment to define marriage as being between a man and woman. If that isn?t bad enought, Pat Toomey voted to prohibit health benefits for domestic partners and ban adoptions by LGBT couples. He also failed to support every piece of legislation the Congressman sponsored above, and more.
*With less than five weeks to go, it is also imperative to bring the necessary attention to our cause. One of the most effective ways of doing this is to get out as many letters to the editor as possible. Joe needs every one of his LGBT supporters to send in at least one Letter to the Editor to your local newspapers every week: http://joesestak.ning.com/page/letter-to-the-editor. Don't forget to send me a copy as well!
*Help organize friends and colleagues to join us in the final weekend before Election Day on November 2nd to knock on doors, make phone calls, and ensure people are getting to the polls.
Sunday, October 3
by Sue on Sun 03 Oct 2010 04:21 PM EDT
It has been awhile. Thankfully, Kris Saunders of Squirrel Hill has brought back the homobigot rant to the editorial page of the Tribune Review. Kris is of the mindset that the pedophilia scandal in the Catholic Church is a result of rampant tolerance of homosexuality.
Now I'm not quite sure I understand. Is Kris arguing that the Trib is being inconsistent by lifting up homosexuality, but failing to demonize the homosexuals for destroying the Catholic Church?
Let's take a gander at Cardinal Peter Damian ... from the lovely Wikipedia ... I learned that this is the guy who invented flagellation.
There's more ... namely The Book of Gomorrah: An Eleventh Century Treatise Against Clerical Homosexual Practices.
Clearly, Peter had issues with homosexuality. What gets lost in Kris' letter is the fact that Peter also had issues with the abuse of power by those in authority. Would his censure of pedophiles who are homosexual end there or would he have the perception to see the deep corruption that covered up these sins and literally led lambs to the slaughter by refusing to exercise authority in the best interests of children, not the Church?
Who knows? But it certainly is interesting reading and, as always, I appreciate a good letter to the editor!
by Sue on Sun 03 Oct 2010 03:06 PM EDT
This morning, Ledcat and I toddled down to Millvale to try out their incarnation of Pamela's Diner. I expected to be thrilled and amazed by yummy strawberry pancakes, but turns out it took a chair to slay me.
Michelle Obama's chair.
Well, she doesn't *own* the chair. She sat in it. When she stopped by Pamela's during the G-20 (I'm ducking so don't hurl anything at the computer).
We were both a little giddy that we were seated at Michelle Obama's table and got in each other's way vying to get the perfect Facebook photo op. Our server patiently waited for us and confirmed that pretty much everyone does the same thing.
Then I was like "hold up, Sue." Well, I didn't actually say that so much as "May I have coffee and ice water, please?" as I settled into the chair NEXT to Michelle Obama's chair. But it was swirling around in the pre-caffeinated brain of mine somewhere. (Word: Ledcat beat me with the photo-to-Facebook thing).
It dawned on me that I was pretty giddy about a chair even as I feel rather despondent about the Administration. So I'm making this chair the piece de resistance in my November 2, 2010 attitude -- something sturdy upon which to cast my Democratic votes ... perhaps, the sturdiest thing the Democrats have offered this little lesbian in the past two years?
Saturday, October 2
by Sue on Sat 02 Oct 2010 10:48 AM EDT
As reported in today's Rich Lord article, the attitude of Public Works Director Robert Kaczorowski pretty much exemplifies the worst type of entitlement so many public <ahem> servants exhibit.
The piece is on the official report on how to make things better if we have another snowmageddon. Mr. Kaczorowski didn't even read it, but is quick to dismiss the findings.
I wonder if he thinks the repeated calls to 911 from an African-American household count as a noisy minority? Is he being flip in the face of someone's death or just flip in the face of criticism period? Criticism from a <gasp> woman!?!
What a sad reflection on the lack of professionalism and maturity among the Ravenstahl Administration leaders. It is embarrassing that this sort of childish tantrum doesn't get filtered through a spokesperson.
Read the article. Good stuff and plenty of positives about the hard-working women and men of DPW who helped us weather the storm. The problem seems to be the attitude and forethought on the Administrative level, not the efforts of those in the trenches.
I'll be honest though. If they banned parking on my street, I'd probably ignore it. Where do they expect us to park? That's the piece I need to know. Where can I park?
by Sue on Sat 02 Oct 2010 10:24 AM EDT
Congratulations to the honorees in the upcoming "Women in Media" celebration sponsored by the Women and Girls' Foundation of Southwestern Pennsylvania. The celebration is set for Saturday, November 6 at the August Wilson Center and promises to have some social media twists, including lots of live tweeting (!) and a slideshow of local women's blogging excerpts.
Thursday, September 30
by Sue on Thu 30 Sep 2010 08:54 AM EDT
I was pleased that Representative Tim Solobay used quick thinking to defend himself in an attempted mugging in Harrisburg. I'm glad some of the suspects are in custody and no one was injured. It is a good story of an individual using the resources at hand to get help. Being a former athlete didn't hurt.
But the last lines in the Wednesday late edition version of events took me aback.