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View Article  This lesbian and other stuff: preholiday wrap up

For the past six weeks, I have been coordinating our agency's holiday projects -- Toys for Tots, adopt a family, the holiday party, etc.  It has been exhausting and has consumed nearly every moment of my attention.  I've stood in ankle deep snow for nearly an hour waiting while Marines load a giant box truck I had to navigate back through said snow.  I've stood in line at Target more times than I can count to purchase tape, wrapping paper and other accessories.  I've stood taking people's information to provide them with a few toys to help stretch their holidays.  I've stood amidst 57 volunteers packed into a tiny donated space sorting toys and folding socks for children.  And I've sat bent over a computer checking our toy donations against the recall list. 

In many ways, this has been a great project.  Hundreds of people volunteered to help us sort and wrap and distribute.  Many others donated and adopted and shopped for families they've never met.  Someone showed up with a $700 donation out of the blue.  Most people were appreciative and those who weren't I'm sure had their reasons to be disappointed -- Toys for Tots ain't what it used to be as donations are down.  It is okay with me when people express disappointment.  I refuse to slip into that "be grateful little poor person" mentality of giving.  (That being said, I sure had my moments ...)

In fact, that is what has struck me the most this holiday season -- how many of us have the moral of "A Christmas Carol" backwards.  People call asking to help the Tiny Tims of the world, but Tiny Tim wasn't transformed in this story  -- except for the whole he probably wouldn't die thing.  It was Scrooge's heart that changed as his awareness grew of how he could make a difference in the lives of so many people.  The satisfaction of his generosity wasn't mere charity, it was connecting with Tiny Tim and reconnecting with his nephew and his loved ones. 

That's what I wanted to experience this holiday -- helping our donors understand the lives of the people they help and allowing their generosity to build a connection.  I think it worked in a few cases. 

Don't get me wrong -- the generosity was tremendous.  But I'm already having post-holiday letdown.  And that sucks.  It just feels rote at this point. 

Any thoughts?

 

View Article  Gab Bonesso Needs New Friends

Last night, Ledcat and I tottered off to the Brillo Box to see our friend and gal-pal Gabrielle Bonesso's Christmas Comedy Special.  On a school night.  In a room filled with smoke.  And, in spite of Ms. Gab's promises, not a single cookie in sight. 

That's how much we love her.

Almost the entire lineup of local comics were twentysomething, underemployed, pudgy, poorly dressed young men with the age-typical obsession with bathroom behavior, getting high and saying "fuck" as many times as possible in one breath.  It was the weirdest experience ... as if I was trapped in a room filled with the love children of Jim Belushi (yes, Jim and not John) and Seth Rogan.  It was a scene right out of "Knocked Up."

My favorite moment was when this guy wearing one of those creepy Steeler man-dresses tried to explain why Christmas is a gay holiday and based his argument on Christmas lights being gay.  Don't ask.  I guess the homoerotic thrill of being wrapped in the man-sweaty embrace of Ben Roethlisberger's shirt cut off the supply of funny to his mouth.  Or elsewhere.  He gave up and didn't seem to appreciate my disapproving middle-age lesbian frown.  Whatever. I have a job AND health insurance.  He does look better than me in a dress, I have to say.

Actually, some of the comedians were funny.  Gab shined even though she had to go home and go to bed early.  The cello playing hottie was pretty amusing except for the fact that we could not quite discern the lyrics.  I'd like to see her again only with a better sound system.  Seth Rogan's younger brother was there and apparently he is quite the ad libber.  I think there's another word for that, but it was pretty much like Mad-Libs with a lot of marijuana references and sad sack jokes about not getting laid. Ho hum. 

The award for best-dressed and actually funniest comedian goes to ... Johnny Mac who pushed the envelope so far it came out looking like one of those fold up little swans,  John significantly butched up the show to a full out metrosexual love fest. Even if he is a pervert.  Ick, ick, ick.  The social worker in me is APPALLED.

I did laugh, but on the drive home it occured to me that the reason I have never heard of any of these guys is that they just aren't that original.  The jokes were pretty interchangeable and it seemed like they were really performing for each other.  Which is fine, but not very creative.  How hard is to make the long-haired stoner with the three day in a row hoodie and a really cool MySpace page laugh?  Seriously.  Toss one of these shlubs into a room filled with lesbians and let's see what they can do. 

Just lose the man-dress, dude. 

View Article  so What's Up with Sue, anyway?

i have hurt my back.  it started throbbing last week.  the two hour drive in the giant box truck to pick up toys didn't help, I'm sure.  especially the part where i was scrunched up from stress trying to find the marine distribution center.  then when i had to get all slidey with the boxes so we could unload. 

now i'm on the couch with a rolled up pillow prop, a bag of ice and a restless mind.  simply-cannot-afford to be laid up this week.  i have ten days of toy wrapping projects ahead of me and i-am-stressed-out.

it hurts.  a-lot.  yikes!

so i'm in the in-between of my body doesn't work right and my head is filled with all the tons of crap i have to do. 

i think i want to break up with my therapist.  but that is just a phase. probably, right?

i need to buy 500 "holiday" cards by tuesday.  and wrapping paper.

i'm reading god is not Great by Christopher Hitchens.  it is great.  he's persuading me that i think like an atheist.  except that i am unwilling to let go of my personal experiences with the divine.  i guess. 

i'm depressed about recycling and my environmental footprint. i seduced myself into thinking i was this awesome person b/c i tried to recycle everything.  stupid crap. then i found out that a lot of it is just self-soothing activity that doesn't make a damn bit of good. of course not.  the real emphasis should be on reducing my usage of environmentally damaging items, not patting myself on the back for rinsing and reusing.  here's what i learned from the PA Resources Council

they don't recycle the plastic bags in which we store our recycling.  doesn't that seem silly?  why not recycle into paper bags which can be recycled? 

you can recycle plastic peanuts at the USPS.  however, there's no place to recycle those little plastic sauce containers that come with takeout.  so extra sauce from Giorgio's means death to yet another baby turtle. so much for meat-free.

if you contaminate your bag of recycling with too many items that aren't recyclable (like all those lids), they sometimes just toss the whole bag into the landfill.  i think every adult i know tosses lids into the blue bags. damn.

biodegradable plastic bags don't biodegrade in landfills.  so is it all hype?  i asked the Co-op and Whole Foods to look into blue biodegradable bags made from recycled plastic b/c it seems silly to use a virgin bag just for recycling.  now it seems silly to worry about it. the damn bags aren't recycled and don't biodegrade.

i feel a bit foolish at my presumption that it would be so easy. all those pizza boxes crammed into the bins at Construction Junction prove that i am not alone in my self-delusion.  and to think i made fun of the earnest men and women driving their SUV's especially out to Point Breeze every weekend.  ha. the joke is on me, I guess.  because it is hard to reduce. 

now that's a double entendre, she thoughtfully notes as she sips her gingerbread flavored coffee and nibbles a cookie from the Priory Bakery.

i'm not really depressed so much as feeling crabby and skeptical.  i'm trying hard to use my current work assignment (toy drive) as a educational tool and not merely another facet of sopping off our consumer guilt with one giant tax deduction.  i want to get excited when people care, but it can be a bit of a challenge when i doubt their motives.  it just makes me want to shop. 

this would be a great time for an unexpected wallop from the ghost of christmas present. 

View Article  Larry Craig Doll says "I Am Not Gay"

Ledcat really wants one of these ...

Apparently, you can bend his feet into all sorts of positions ...

Last year it was this ...

 

She is once again bound for disappointment. 

View Article  This Week in Gay Prez Politics

You should keep up with this stuff. 

John Edwards on repealing Don't Ask, Don't Tell ...we should do it, sayeth he with no details on *how* to do it ...

Mitt Romney continues to hate on the gays

 

Several gay-themed questions have been submitted for Wednesday's Republican Debate on CNN-YouTube.

Stay tuned for periodic updates.  Pay attention, people.

 

View Article  OUTrageous Bingo celebrates 10th Anniversary

Want something fun to do this weekend?  Check aht the 10th Anniversary edition of OUTrageous Bingo at its final appearance at Goodwill Industries.  Lots of surprises and promised appearances by spectacular performers.  Sounds like big holiday fun.

 

 

View Article  Gifts and Questions for you ....

What should I include in a Pittsburgh themed gift basket for my brother and sister-in-law?  They live in Chicago.  I am about 85% finished with my holiday purchases and this is the stumper. 

Also, is there a word, other than sister-in-law, for the woman married to your brother-in-law?  Especially when you are a lesbian and said brother-in-law is more of a brother-in-domestic-partnership?  To simplify, I'm referring to Ledcat's brother and his wife who do not live in Chicago. 

  Check our Crystal Eastman's summary from "The Next Page" feature in Sunday's Post-Gazette.  Friggin' awesome.

View Article  Piittsburgh: There is no "LGBTor Q" in Diversity!

ARTICLE V: DISCRIMINATION

(b)   It shall be the public policy of the City to prohibit discrimination because of race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin, place of birth, sex, sexual orientation, familial status, age, nonjob related handicap, or disability in employment; and

(n)     SEXUAL ORIENTATION.    Male or female homosexuality, heterosexuality and bisexuality or perceived homosexuality, heterosexuality and bisexuality. 

Give credit where credit is due.  Luke Ravenstahl hired Tamiko Stanley as the City's Equal Employment Opportunities manager and she's tackling the job full-throttle when it comes to gender and race, according to Friday's Post-Gazette. This includes everything from upper-body strength standards in firefighter hiring to forging partnerships with community-based groups such the Kingsley Association to recruit more African-American applicants for City jobs.

Rich Lord mentions that Stanley came to the City after several years with the Pirates without noting her actual accomplishments in diversity recruitment.  I'm assuming we are all in agreement that the City has enough overpaid fat-cats who accomplish nothing to rival anything the Pirates lineup for the past umpteen years.  Hopefully, that wasn't Stanley's forte. 

Stanley has her work cut out for her with the Racial Equity Review Team, labor unions and lotsa lawyers breathing down her neck.  One of those neck-breathers is long-time activist Celeste Taylor who is the only person in the article to mention sexual orientation in the same breathe as diversity.  Not a single column inch mentions Stanley's plans to diversify the City workforce along the sexual orientation continuum.  No mention of incorporating LGBTQ issues in the new City University diversity curriculum.  I'm torn between thinking Rich Lord didn't ask the question, but it is probably more accurate to acknowle that sexual minorities are not on the radar for Stanley. 

This is the Democratic Administration helmed by a Mayor who publicly stated his opposition to gay marriage and gay civil unions.  If he fails that litmus test, is it realistic to think he's going to promote "take a queer to work day" for City employees?  Yes, I realize Luke had the big gay meeting with local LGBTQ leaders (including the Stonewall Democrats) the afternoon before the election, but not a single person in attendance has uttered a public word about the outcome. Thus, Luke is still officially opposed to gay unions.

I guess this latest diversity accolade puts to rest the rumor that Luke thought he was opposing homosexual labor unions.  I've contacted the homosexual labor unions, but they, like the Steel-City Stonewall Democrats, have yet to reply to my email inquiries on this issue.

Some highlights: 

FOP Prez Jimmy Malloy thinks the $38,000+ low a starting salary for police officers with two-year degrees is the diversity issue.  Yeah, that's probably it. Or maybe it is the nasty little requirement forcing the police officers to live far away from the lily white mecca of Cranberry Township that drives the minority applicants away!

Ms. Taylor wants to apply the NFL's "Rooney Rule" to City openings, requiring that at least one minority applicant be interviewed.  Do you think the NFL applies that principle to homosexuals or they just let the beat down/pray for your soul football culture weed out the queers?

Mr. Malloy is quoted as believing police recruits "are already indoctrinated to the principle of treating people with respect."  

Well, we know Luke respects folks in our community willing to ante up for some back rubbing.  There's no Pittsburgh LGTB Chamber of Commerce and our professional networking group (Thursday Night Live) is on life support, so who is going to advocate for a more-queer friendly City workforce?  Or pay for it?

Did Rich Lord ask any gay questions?  Did he?

 

View Article  Thank a Lesbian ...

1.  I'm thankful for Ledcat.  Also, our menagerie.  Our family who just celebrated our first co-holiday meal. 

2.  I'm thankful for my niece, Ava, who teaches me how to give bigger hugs and grow my heart every day.  And my nephew, Ethan, who teaches me that distance doesn't determine love.

3.  I'm thankful for having a meaningful job that pays decently.  And health insurance.

4.  I'm thankful for second and third chances. 

5.  I'm thankful that people read this blog.  It doesn't matter how many.  Just knowing that you care (or disagree) enough to read is good.

6.  I'm thankful for doggie chemotherapy.

7.  I'm thankful for friendships that last 23 years.  And grateful to have other that have laster even longer.

8.  I'm thankful for the wonderful LGBTQ organizations and businesses that nuture our community.  I may not always agree with your decisions or purchase your products and services, but I'm glad you are there.  Even the bars. :-)

9.  I'm thankful that I interned for Rick Santorum in 2001.  That one line on my resume has led to more interesting opportunities, relationships and even job offers than any other accomplishment under my belt.

10.  I'm thankful for Ledcat.  :-)

View Article  The Stuffing Goes Where?

Happy Turkey Day all you lesbian lovin' folk out there ...

 

 

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